Before I found Al‑Anon, I thought there was something wrong with me because I loved an alcoholic. I didn’t understand how I could continue to love someone whose behavior was insane when drinking. I felt alone and isolated with these feelings and felt that, if I could only figure out the right way to behave around the alcoholic, the drinking would stop.
Through Al‑Anon, I have learned that alcoholism is a disease and that I can love the person, but hate the disease. I have also learned that I have been affected by it, too and that I can feel angry about that. But I can be gentle with myself and remember that I am doing the best I can, just like the alcoholic is. I am able to see the alcoholic in my life as more than just an alcoholic. I can see the loving, caring, funny and smart person there too. I can love this person, simply and honestly. And I can love myself, too.