I Learned I Am Not Alone

I discovered at my first Al‑Anon meeting just how much alcoholism had affected me, even though I didn’t drink. I was just as sick as my alcoholic boyfriend—maybe worse. I was obsessed. I constantly searched for alcohol and poured it out when I found it. I didn’t sleep or eat, and I was deeply depressed. I felt crazy. My life had become unmanageable.

During that meeting, I learned I was not alone. I remember sitting there that night, at the end of my rope, when I heard a woman sobbing as she shared her experience. I could feel her pain because her story mirrored mine. I was surprised to realize that I was that sobbing woman. It was my voice sharing all I’d endured. I’d never heard of Al‑Anon before and didn’t know what to expect that night. I walked in feeling broken and devastated, but I left feeling relieved because I knew that I was not alone. I felt accepted, welcomed and supported. I’d found freedom.

By Ann M., Florida

The Forum, December 2017

2018-02-02T14:53:28+00:00 December 4, 2017|Categories: Alcoholic Spouse or Partner, The Forum|


  1. Philly88 March 2018 at 12:06 pm

    Sooo. I have attended a couple Al-Anon meetings. I knew I was not alone. The group that I attend, I am the only guy who has a woman who has a drinking issue. (not sure whether I am the one to label someone as an alcoholic) No drinking, I feel like she and I can take over the world. She drinks and turns into a #$%@^ lunatic. I am really trying to do the right thing. This by far the hardest thing in the world. I am starting to do some introspection, am I that concerned to be in a relationship that I am not concerned about my own sanity? The meetings allow me to “exhale”. I hear about how I am not the only person that is angry. This is one day at a time for me as well.

  2. Beth B. March 2018 at 8:40 am

    I am planning on attending an al-anon meeting today. It is my first. My husband has been home almost a month from his 6 weeks in rehab for alcoholism. I am still so angry. I hope I can get some help.

  3. Michelle February 2018 at 4:31 pm

    I can’t relate to your story all too well. I really need to attend a meeting to not feel alone. Thank you for sharing your experience

  4. Mercy February 2018 at 2:42 pm

    Because of this post I am going to find a meeting near me and go! One of my biggest fears in all this is that I felt alone and embarrassed for letting his alcoholism affect and change me. Thank you for insight into your experience!!

  5. Kathy January 2018 at 11:22 am

    Reaching Out: Never understood alcoholism and the affects! I have learned. He does not even remember instances! No wonder he always blames me! He does not even remember! My heart bleeds! He IS a good man! A sick one! I realize I need help to understand and survive this to help him. Us. Family. Life!

  6. Jamie December 2017 at 8:28 pm

    So I’ve heard a lot lately about a dry drunk. My husband has been so mean and yelling at me all the time. Since the three month mark, I’ve tried telling him he should go to a therapist because he refuses to go to an AA meeting. Not sure what to do…

  7. Ceola J. December 2017 at 8:49 am

    Thank You!

  8. Sumi December 2017 at 9:52 am

    In each meeting, I tried to free my mind from all worries due to alcoholic family sickness.

    In the first meeting, I realized I get a place to open my mind, there I can freely share my worries because the listeners have the same mental state and have similar experiences. And I always have a feeling that god is sitting in a vacant chair and hearing my voice. Each day I got a remedy for my problems from the sharing of others. My mind slowly slowly lightened…now i can smile, I can work, I can love… I can enjoy each and every moment of my life… I am happy so is my family.

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