I came to Al‑Anon for the first time because I felt hopeless. I had tried every possible thing to fix my alcoholic mother but none of it worked. Every night was a different fight that ended in the same exact defeat as the one before. It took me reaching rock bottom, the utmost feeling of hopelessness, to bring me into Al‑Anon.
Once I got here, I realized where I went wrong—I couldn’t find the magic solution to fixing my mom because there wasn’t one. Instead, I learned I had my own recovery and my own path of solutions to find for myself. This knowledge encouraged me to come back to Al‑Anon, and since then I have gotten involved in my group and have never felt more at home. Meeting people with situations just as hopeless as mine and sharing stories of recovery with them constantly gives me hope, when it seemed there was none.
By Leah G., Washington
Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019
Than sounds like my mom. Her place is filthy, her phone has been cut off for not paying her bills, she got a cell phone she doesn’t know how to use and and has stopped showering. On top of this, she is a chain smoker 2-3 packs day. She has been going to her neighbors to order alcohol to be delivered. I am getting married in a few months and I don’t know what to do. I feel awful if I don’t invite my mom to my wedding but I can’t have her drunk or in withdrawal there. Also she… Read more »
You are NOT alone! It is tough trying not to take responsibility for our parents. I am going through a similar situation myself. I feel like no one could POSSIBLY understand. I see my mother’s living conditions and how she is not taking care of herself, it is something that I would only expect to see in a movie.
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I am in this same situation right now. I feel so hopeless and I can’t seem to find a way to change. She has ran both of my sisters out of the State and I am left to live with this on my own. I need help, I need to find something to change this situation.