Fixing Me, Not You

I thought Al‑Anon was my ticket to fix my daughter. But in return, it saved me from myself. I have found friendship, unconditional love, hope and serenity. I realize how alcoholism affected my life growing up, and I now see it in my grown children. I can’t change the past. But I am setting an example for a better way of living.

Today, I have a better life free from drama and emotional stuff that wasn’t mine to carry. I can laugh, love and be gentle and honest with myself. Sometimes I struggle, but I have tools. I know I can’t do it alone, and I’m always welcome. But the best part is that I don’t need to try to fix everyone anymore.

By Roxanne R., Ontario, Canada

The Forum, February 2018

2018-02-02T11:47:47+00:00 January 31, 2018|Categories: Alcoholic Child, The Forum|


  1. Judy M. April 2018 at 9:43 pm

    I have been dealing with an adult alcoholic daughter, for many years. The past few years has gotten worse, as she is a single 50yr old. She nearly died last week. Hours after she was released from hospital, she was drinking.

  2. wendy March 2018 at 3:28 pm

    wow, that second paragraph is powerful. it really hits home, i was always the one fixing or trying to fix everyone around me, except ME!

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