When I first came to Al‑Anon, I was depressed and sad. I didn’t know how to live with active alcoholism, and honestly, I didn’t know how to go on living anymore. I could have died, but Al‑Anon saved my life.

Later, when I had been in the Al‑Anon program for over a decade, a series of life events overwhelmed me. I was barely able to attend meetings and had limited time to talk with my Sponsor or work the Steps. I began once again to slip into a place of despair. Fortunately for me, most of my friends are in recovery and recognized my declining mental health. They suggested I renew my commitment to meetings and Step work. One friend pleaded with me to attend 30 meetings in 30 days—at least a meeting a day, no matter what. And because I knew I was dying, I made up my mind to do this.

Life didn’t stop and things were crazy, but I went to a meeting every day like my life depended on it. I also started working the Steps from the beginning again, and I prioritized doing Step work each week.

It worked! It really worked. For the second time, Al‑Anon saved my life. I know and have a real experience that proves that the Twelve Steps of the Al‑Anon program, along with a Sponsor and a home group, will work to change my life. I know the way out of the pit of despair. It is through recovery and the Al‑Anon program. This is a gift that I have a responsibility to share with others. Those who do know can be a help to those who don’t even know that they don’t know.

Today, I show up at meetings regularly. I do Step work. I reason things out with fellow members in Al‑Anon, and I make myself available to help others. When I was in a dark place, I wasn’t alone. Now I can make sure that is true for others.

By Shiloh W., Montana

The Forum, March 2022


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