Recently at a meeting I attended, the topic was hope. The Chairperson shared her thoughts on what hope meant to her by breaking down the meaning of the word letter by letter. Here’s what she shared:

H = I hear others share their courage, strength and hope, which can benefit me on my road to recovery.

O = I open my heart and mind to different ideas and become willing to consider that what has helped others may help me, too.

P = I practice what I learn using the Steps, Serenity Prayer, slogans and other program tools to gain peace of mind.

E = I educate myself about the disease of alcoholism, so I can better understand what my loved one is going through. And I use Al‑Anon Conference Approved Literature to work toward recovery.

By Linda C., New Brunswick

The Forum, January 2018


  1. El June 2018 at 1:44 pm

    My mother began her sobriety when I was sixteen years old. I was only just beginning to understand what had been going on my whole life. At the same time, I was beginning to start a life of my own. Mom began attending meetings right away, and continued for the last 20yrs of her sobriety. She told me it was a disease, though I couldn’t see how, and she invited me to meetings with her. I enjoyed this time with her very much. Over the years, she began to chair meetings and became a sponsor to many. She, again two weeks ago, told me she’d like me to attend Al-Anon, and took me to Alateen meetings when I was younger. For the second time in many years, she relapsed this year. She was always open to admitting the trauma her disease inflicted and wanted me to get help for it. She knew the best way to do that was for me to work a separate program. I’m looking into it again. I never thought the past would affect me again, and I find myself turning to the same destructive path to cope with memories of my childhood. It’s hard, but I know it will benefit me, and enable me to support her too.

    I, too, am a mother of two now. The guilt of my mistakes eats me up instantly. The way only a mother knows. I know I beat myself up to the point of forgetting to stand up and do the best I can to simply begin to change the way I do things…one day at a time. 😉

    Best wishes to you both. Only a good mother would seek beneficial support for her and her children, and openly admit her faults. No matter how she seems to be blinded by it, she knows, and she sees you more clearly now. My mother is my hero, the QUEEN in my eyes, and strongest person I know. She fights the battle every day, and never stopped. Stronger every day, she overcomes a wicked illness, that I know was passed to me. She is my strength, even in weakness. It’s truly amazing, and so are you.

  2. Lisa V. February 2018 at 11:16 am

    My daughter is 15, I’m not sure how to suggest this to her. We live in Wy. and there isn’t much support here or any that I know of for teens. I have been alcoholic for all of her life. Sober 5 years. Intoxicated the last 5, sober now 8 months due to jail and treatment, we have been back together 3 weeks. I can’t say anything you all haven’t heard. She is wonderful, I want and desire her the support.

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