Why can’t these men show love

If they truly loved you, if they truly cared, then they’d stop. This goes for any addiction, and any problem in a relationship that’s serious. It’s not your fault they’ve developed a dependance, that’s their doing. No one forced them to drink. They chose to drink, they can choose to stop and or at least drink in moderation. Most just don’t want to though, and many never will. They’ll keep chasing that high even if it means their death, and the broken hearts of everyone they know. Source: was raised in a family of alcoholics, and married one. They didn’t… Read more »

Last night, I went over to my boyfriend’s and he had his daughter over (it was his turn to babysit and she’s 4). We decided to get some burgers and have a couple drinks. Mind you, I told him we cannot drink ‘all crazy’ when his daughter is there because we both need to be alert and whatnot, in case of emergencies. I repeatedly said this several times throughout the night to get it into his thick head… There were about a couple drinks left in the fridge and he kept saying ‘this is my last one, this is my… Read more »

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, I was 17 and he was 18 when we got together. I know this seems young for these kind of problems but he really does have a problem with addiction, money and general will power. He seems to have inherited these traits from his alcoholic father who had to flee the country due to legal issues and debt. His mother left his father when he was 8 due to him being an abusive alcoholic- my boyfriend has never abused me but I fear he’s manipulated me in ways. For… Read more »

I’ve been with him over a year. Things were good at first, other than he smoked pot too often. I didn’t notice the drinking problem until about half way through when I would see him drinking in the morning. Still, I was blinded by my love for him, and I didn’t think anything of it. I had been surrounded by alcoholics my entire life, and somehow I chose not to see it in him. About six months ago is when I really saw how serious it was. He would get drunk in the morning and pass out in the afternoon.… Read more »

Atm things are getting worse! Probably I should leave my man cause he have affair when drunk not knowing what he did! And he keeps doing it! I keep forgiving looking like a fool! Now I’m really suffering cause I’m like a tool😭…

I use to think so but not now.

how do i go on after ive sent my bf to rehab n were done

My husband chooses drinking over me and his kids almost every day after work. He’ll drink before he returns home from work, and then he’ll consume some more drinks here at home. That one drink has turned into a whole six pack and then some. I have left my husband because of this, and then he promises me that he’s not going to drink even a sip ever again. Here we are three months back into living together and he’s drank every day for the past 2 months. It hurts and he knows how much his drinking hurts me. I’ve… Read more »

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When I met my husband, he drank. Didn’t seem like a big deal or maybe I just looked past it. It was kinda love at first sight. I knew very quickly that he was special. We moved in together after 4 months. Got married after a year. It was the big wedding I always wanted. We were so happy for the first three years. He was my best friend. Then, he totaled his vehicle drinking & driving. He wasn’t hurt but ran from the vehicle. He was thrown in jail, had an anklet on for a year after he was… Read more »

Hi everyone, I am grieving the loss of the father of my 1 year old child, on Father’s Day he decided to leave and get loaded with a 36 pack of beer. He drinks beer daily about a 14-24 pack a day. He did not spend Father’s Day with his son because he rather get loaded. I made a decision to let go of him. I realized that I can not control it, I can not cure it and I will not change it. He admits he has a problem and detoxes only during lent. I can no longer take… Read more »

Yes I tried to help my on/off again so many times to quit the drinking and drugs. Just recently helped him detox after a long binder and it was really scary thing to watch, prob even dangerous because he is prone to seizures and even needed a prescription to get into detox his last go round… basically he detoxed, and then discarded me. What happened is he couldn’t function so he used me to be able to function while drinking, problem is I believed he was quitting and that my love would carry him thru AGAIN. I am always wrong.

I am coming to the realization that my husband may be an alcoholic or at least have a serious drinking problem. I am three months pregnant with twins and I have asked him repeatedly to slow down or stop drinking and he says he will but then he gets drunk and is mean and tells me it’s my fault he drinks and I’m too controlling and a bad wife. I’m terrified to leave because I love him and I don’t want to do this without him, I don’t really know if I can without him. But something has to change.… Read more »

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We have a 4 year old and I am weeks away from giving birth to our second. He started going to AA meetings in November and was sober up until April as far as I’m aware. He gets support from family and friends. He has recently started to hide bottles and drink secretly. I’ve tried to support him through this but honestly sometimes it feels like trying to revive a dead dog. It just seems so selfish to me that I’m the one who needs to most support now and don’t… Read more »

I was married to my husband for 10 years. We loved each other so deeply. I knew he did have a drinking problem prior to marrying him but had no idea really what it meant. I figured love would see us through. We had many special times. In our early years of marriage first 3 he was drinking and I told him to get help which he did not. His drinking got worse. I felt and saw a change in him. He was not the same man I married. Finally after about 9 years his behavior was more angry, verbal… Read more »

Hey everyone. If you stay with an alcoholic, you will have endless heartache. […] Mother was a very abusive alcoholic for 32 years and now in a nursing home with stage 4 dementia and COPD. Ended up in ER a few times due to her abuse. Ex boyfriend spends $2,500 each month on alcohol consumption. I cut him off 1.5 years ago after he picked me up for dinner in his truck and crashed into a concrete pillar and drove off after I told him to stop and wait for police. He was swerving all over the road, my life… Read more »

Loving an alcoholic is hard. My girlfriend drinks a bottle of whiskey every day and has no signs of slowing down. I try to help her, try talking about the danger of the bottle, and voicing my concerns, but she doesn’t want to make any changes. I worry for her health, and safety, especially now that alcohol is banned during our ridiculous lockdown policy and she still buys booze through blackmarket channels that I really don’t like. Dealing with people I really don’t like. My feelings and concerns are disregarded and she goes about obtaining alcohol. If she loves alcohol… Read more »

I understand completely. My alcoholic husband has left for another woman. But he calls me from phone numbers that I can not contact him. He says things like, “you don’t deserve this, I love you, I can’t live like this, I can’t stop drinking”. Then he hangs up and leave me to worry about him. I have tried everything. I’m not sure if he is trying to ask for help or he is really saying “I don’t want to stop drinking”. Either way I have to find peace and at the same time try to be prepared to help if… Read more »

I lost my woman to alcohol in January she run off with a fellow alcoholic a real degenerate. My problem is I still love her and care about her and worry about her health. I have not heard from her In about a month now and when she does make contact it’s through the other guy – usual threats etc. I’d love to hear from her I just can’t get my head round why she would leave while I was at work after begging me not to go to work that day I’m bitter as she has no friends and… Read more »