Principles before Personalities. This brings to mind the difference between reacting and responding. If I find myself reacting, more often than not, I am reacting to someone’s Personality. When I take the time to instead respond, I am more likely behaving with respect to the Principles.

When I first seriously considered Tradition 12, I felt a great sense of release. Finally I had a logical response to that nagging voice in my head that continuously denigrated other people.

Tradition Twelve brings to mind the importance of anonymity, which for me has become very imperative over the years. Before coming to the program I had no clue about anonymity, so I said everything that came to mind regardless of how it affected others. Now, that I am aware of the importance of anonymity, I show more respect toward others and practice tact and diplomacy when sharing things. Anonymity requires humility and respect and there has been great lessons for me to be learned from it. I also love the concept of principles above personalities mentioned in Tradition Twelve. This… Read more »

I still remember the words my mother said when she saw my Kindergarten class picture. She said “of course you had to be the one with the messy hair”. That hurt and that’s when it all began. I was raised to believe that I was not good enough. Not until I came into the program in my fifties did I come to understand that she was wrong. I am good enough. The program has taught me that whatever someone else thinks about me is not as important as what I think about myself. The program allows me to come in… Read more »

To me, anonymity means taking off the mask and learning how to be myself. It means not having to maintain appearances. It means giving up trying to control how others perceive me. Al-Anon is a safe place to practice being my true self. Many years of focusing on others and trying not to be seen caused me to lose myself. After so long hiding from my feelings, I didn’t know what they were anymore! When I entered recovery, I was a stranger to myself. Al-Anon is a safe place for me to shed my public face and get to know… Read more »

What does Anonymity mean to me. I can be myself. I can have my own thoughts, desires, ideas, dreams and wishes. I can find things I am interested in and have passion for people places and things. I can discover new ideas and gather information. I can learn something new every day. These Principles of Al-Anon open the door to new awareness, acceptance and new actions taken or not taken. To Be Understood as to Understand or maybe not Understand Everything knowing that God is in Charge and is Large. These GOD Incidences always take place when I am present… Read more »

I love this Tradition that taught me to listen to message and not pay so much attention to the messenger. Prior to the program and even after, I listened to who, in my eyes, were or seemed importnt. I took great pride in following their lead. I gave too much importance to personalities and this influenced my thinking and my decision making. When those people expressed opinions of any kinds, in my mind, they detained the truth. This of course were filled with illusions!!! Acting this way cheated me of important messages, that could have been very helpful in my… Read more »