Step One
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
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When I admitted that my life was unmanageable from my loved ones use of alcohol, it brought personal freedom and the idea that possibly I could not only not control my son’s drinking, but I may not be able to control any choices that other people make. It opened up the idea that I was not responsible for other people’s lives and that the focus needed to be brought back to my own life. How was I taking care of myself? What did I need to do to detach with love from others whose drinking bothered me? What attitudes, behaviors,… Read more »
When I first came to Al-Anon I learned that alcoholism is a disease. “I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it.” We call this “The Three C’s.” I love the pithy little sayings and Slogans we have in Al-Anon because they simplify our Legacies in ways that can be quickly recalled in times of crisis. If I can’t cause, control, or cure it, then I have no power over it, I am powerless. This is the First Step. I spent so much time and energy focusing on everyone else that I completely lost track of… Read more »
So, looking at Step One. Looking at the tools that can help me understand how to set boundaries. I find myself looking at the Spiritual Principles in Step One. Allowing me to become aware of where to start. Let go of control allows us to find Hope, Surrender, get Honest with ourselves. Be aware that we can not fix or control anyone but ourselves. Become aware I need to protect myself, not work on someone else, only myself. Allowing me to say “No”, because “No” is a complete sentence. If I need to. Stop taking on other people responsibilities.