Step Eleven
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
Please share your experience, strength, and hope as it relates to Step 11. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you liked and leave the rest. Member sharing on the Member Blog may be used in future Al‑Anon publications.
It took me a while to get to Step 11 because, although prayer was part of my life after a short time in the program, I had some trouble with meditation. I had the wrong idea of what meditation was, thinking that I had to sit for 10 minutes without moving. For me, because I have a light Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), it was impossible to do so. It took me a while to grasp the concept of meditation, as it could be applied and personalized in our program, according to my understanding of my Higher Power. Today, it still… Read more »
Like so many others before me, coming into Al-Anon, I was spiritually broken. I possessed no faith in a loving Higher Power, believed in nothing but suffering, and was under a cloud so dark that I couldn’t see a light at the end of that proverbial tunnel even if it was shining like the new day sun. I think back now on how scary that was for me to have lived life in complete darkness. I am almost 2 years into my journey with Al-Anon and I can tell you that it hasn’t been an easy one. The first thing… Read more »
Regarding Step 11 . . . Lately I’ve been thinking about a Higher Power, not as a person, or a thing, but as a space and a perspective. To me the “love larger than I know” is what happens in rooms where we gather for spiritual fellowship. It is the shift in perspective that happens there when, rather than being solely an individual, I am part of community, because I have shifted to quiet attention. This is why Al-Anon and 12-Step Groups work for me in a way no other religious practice or belief does. So god… Read more »
I have recently discovered that it is helpful for me to apply the spiritual nature of Step 11 to the practical matter of personal self-care. I have realized that the God of My Understanding wants for me to get good sleep, and wishes I would make smart choices about what to eat, and wants for me to do what I can to be strong and healthy. I believe these things are part of God’s will for me. If I am consistent with prioritizing my own self-care, then I am doing my part to best be able to carry out my… Read more »
I chose to share on this step because this month I celebrated the 40th anniversary of walking into a meeting and deciding Al-Anon was for me. With my Anniversary in November, quite frequently I have gotten to lead on this Step. It is one of my favorites. Step 11 Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry it out. I believe that this is a step that I was able to use at any time, BUT, it truly came… Read more »
Before I came to Al Anon, I prayed, but my prayers mostly consisted of me telling God what He should do! Along with plenty of helpful suggestions about how and when He should do it. My praying back then was often just another attempt at control. If I couldn’t get the alcoholics in my life to straighten up, surely He could, if I could only find the magic words to get Him to act! I’m so grateful that through Steps One, Two, and Three, I can now practice turning my loved ones over to God’s care. I can turn myself… Read more »
Over the years I have come to love Step Eleven and apply it into my life every day. However, when I first read it I was not impressed by what was asked of me. I could pray, but I knew I had to change my concept of prayer. My prayers in the past had been a «demand» and a «do it my way». As for meditation, at that time, it was a waste of time. Today, I understand that praying is talking to God. I also know that my Higher Power, as I understand Him, can listen to my prayers… Read more »
Having done the first 10 steps, I do have a conscious contact with the God of my understanding. It is my God of my understanding that I want to improve my contact with. This is what I love about this program. God can be whatever I profess him/she/it to be and we can all have our own understanding. Prayer is asking and meditation is listening. The 11th step tells us what to prayer for…’only for the knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.’ We pray to ask God to show us His will for… Read more »
It is such a relief to Let Go and Let God. I no longer feel the need to be in charge or to take control of everything. I feel free when I allow God’s will in my life. After suffering so long with a need to fix everything and never fixing anything, it feels wonderful to have God take control. I feel rested like never before as have learned to rely on him and to let him help me. I now know that I don’t have to travel this journey alone. And that is what Step 11 is all about… Read more »
I recently discovered a really helpful prayer. I won’t copy it here because I know there are rules about posting excerpts from Conference Approved Literature. It can be found on page 15 of the Alateen booklet on Detachment (P-73). I have really gained a lot from the Alateen literature, once I became open minded enough to consider it. When I say this particular prayer, I do have one small “edit”. Between the end of what is printed, and the “Amen”, I insert the single word . . . “today”. I have already found it to be helpful on a daily… Read more »
Step Eleven is my favorite Step. It reminds me that I am not in charge. It also reminds me to put my will and my life in God’s Hands. And everything will be alright.
I used to think that meditation was about doing it right. And that I was doing it wrong because I kept getting distracted by thoughts and feelings. With a new app I’m using, I’m learning that meditation is a practice. That it’s normal for my mind to go off on tangents, so I get to practice coming back to my breath again and again. And if a pain or tightness comes up, I can focus on that for awhile and see what happens to it. Same with emotions. Instead of stuffing them or pushing them aside, I can practice focusing… Read more »
I used to TELL God what I wanted him to do for me and get very disappointed when he didn’t do it. Now I ask God to lead and guide me in the direction he wants me to go. I pray every day for acceptance of his will for me. And when He speaks, I listen. Sometimes I’m amazed at the different ways I hear his voice and the serenity I feel allows me to pay attention. In the past my mind was always working so hard, there was no way I would have heard him. I have discovered that… Read more »
As this year comes to a close, with Covid19 spiking, I can discern more growth in me by profound belief in the God of my own understanding. God is working overtime to create something even more beautiful than ever before. It’s gone full circle for me. As a child, I learned to practice my faith in unique ways. I drifted as an adult. The student in me was ready when my teacher appeared alive in me living because of Al-Anon. I returned to my faith in relationship miraculously. There’s always a Grace. It’s up to me to choose God’s Grace…a… Read more »
When I arrived here many years ago I believed in nothing and didn’t want to hear about God of anyone’s understanding. Thankfully they let me stay believing in nothing (of any religious faith or none). I have always appreciated that we never discuss religion in our meetings. Finally accepting a Higher Power and coming to terms with Step 3, my life changed, I am not good at formal prayer so when I start my day I always say good morning God what are we doing today, it reminds me that I am no longer in charge . Today I have… Read more »
Before Al-Anon, I feared God, I Knew the God of love in the program, and during the Steps I got to know myself and God better. To live with more peace and acceptance, when I feel I have God, I continue easily and simply and my fears decrease. I calm my mind with meditation and I love myself and others with a calm mind.
Step Eleven reminds me that I am not alone and that a Power greater than myself is there to help me manage my life and my relationships with Him, with others and with myself. When I first came to the program, I had not prayed for quite a while and medidation was just a far away concept. I started to believe in God of my understanding with Step Three, which paved the way to get a conscious contact with Him. They say that praying is talking to God and meditating is listening to Him. Since I love to talk, so… Read more »
Step Eleven:”Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact contact with God, as we understood Him…” And from a meditation, my Higher Power seemed to say, “Almost everybody has it all wrong about Me! I’m much more simple than what you’ve been told. This is how simple: I am that Piece Of Energy, vibrating within you, that carries you to the next level of peace that you still disqualify yourself from. You know I exist because you’ve already experienced samples of Me, and you’ve limited ME by believing that your next level doesn’t exist … or maybe you fear that… Read more »