New ways to resolve conflict

In an on-camera interview, Lisa, an anonymous Al-Anon member, shares that although she came into the Al-Anon program because of her sister’s drinking, what she learned in the program helped her with others in her life.

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This interview was recorded at the 2018 Al‑Anon International Convention in Baltimore, Maryland, USA. Members were asked to share about various aspects of the Al‑Anon program and their personal experience.

Members’ anonymity is protected so that they can share openly and honestly about their experience with a loved one’s drinking and with the Al‑Anon program.

The opinions expressed in this video were strictly those of the person who gave them.

Video Transcript

New ways to resolve conflict

Interviewer: Lisa, your sister’s alcoholism brought you to Al‑Anon. What has been the biggest change in your life since you came into the program?

Lisa: Everything.

Interviewer: Wow. Give us a few examples.

Lisa: A few examples, sure. When I end up in a conflict with somebody, I no longer see it as either all my fault or all their fault. I’ve learned to ask questions of myself about my motive. I’ve learned to understand more where others are coming from, particularly the alcoholics or people who have a problem with drinking around me. My whole attitude has changed.

Interviewer: That’s great.

Lisa: My outlook, as they say. Yeah, I was told that when I came to Al‑Anon that all I had to change would be everything. And everything has changed. The world looks very different to me now.

Interviewer: Thank you for sharing with us today.