INTERVIEWER: Al‑Anon has had a very positive influence on you. How has it changed the way you deal with your professional life, your personal life?
TEDDY: Biggest effect I have found has been recognizing that I was an adult child, that the first alcoholic in my life was my mother and that her behaviors were not against me. She wasn’t angry with me. She just didn’t know how to respond and not hurt me. And it taught me to misread people. So when I came into the Al‑Anon program and years later, working with the adult children aspect, it helped me see how those early adventures shaped my thinking, and it made it difficult for me to take criticism at work. If someone, if a friend or an acquaintance would say something about my behavior, my appearance, I would get so hurt.
INTERVIEWER: So you took it personally.
TEDDY: I took it very personally and it helped me to see that most of the time, the majority of the time, those people who were even if they were intentionally trying to hurt my feelings, they weren’t really they were coming from a place of pain in themselves. And when I started having difficulties relating to a boss or a friend or someone in the community, I would think to myself, there’s alcoholism in their life, and that’s why they’re responding that way. And it really, really, really helped because it took away the pain.
TEDDY: If I could just say to myself, it’s not me that they’re attacking, even though they were attacking me verbally. They’re not really attacking me. They’re attacking that person who’s hurt them in their life, and I hope they find the rooms.
I have also found the biggest help literature wise was the Reaching for Personal Freedom.
TEDDY: Because it takes all of the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts and applies them to you personally. And that has been a big help to both with myself and anybody I’m sponsoring or talking with.
INTERVIEWER: Yeah. That’s great. It’s all about really applying those things to your personal life.
TEDDY: Exactly. Yes. Exactly, yes.
INTERVIEWER: Thank you.