When I attended my first Al‑Anon meeting, I was in a state of desperation, looking for a way to “fix” my son, the alcoholic. I didn’t know anyone at that meeting. Nevertheless, some members greeted me warmly, made sure I had a seat, and loaned me a book.
The group read a welcome message and then members shared their personal experience, strength, and hope. I can’t begin to tell you how comforted I was by the stories they told about how they had broken free from the same tumultuous life I was caught in.
Although I had come thinking that alcoholism was my son’s problem, I left with new respect for the power that alcoholism has over friends and families. It was actually a relief to get permission to take care of my own recovery and leave my son’s recovery to him. Sure, I would always love him and want to help him—it wasn’t easy to stop all my controlling, enabling behavior. But reading Al‑Anon literature daily, talking to members, and most of all going to meetings, has kept me focused on my personal journey to serenity.
By Anonymous
The Forum, February 2021
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My son(19) went into treatment this past Wednesday. I am looking for support and having a difficult time finding Al-Anon meetings.
New to all this. Guess the new normal has changed a lot of things…especially home life.
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My son has been through rehab twice. Had another relapse on Christmas Day that lasted 5 days. Been sober ever since, got a great job, going to meetings every night…..but I can’t stop worrying about if there will be another relapse!! Looking for support anywhere I can find it! No in-person Al-Anon right now.
I am sooo thankful to find this application! I was married to an alcoholic/drug addict and these meetings were a BLESSING. They gave me positive energy and helped me find me! I look forward to coming back to my Al-Anon family!
Mother of alcoholic son. It’s been a 15 year struggle…that continues. I am so thankful for Al-Anon.
Hi, I am the mother of an alcoholic son. He has a 3 year old and a 2 month old. My husband and I are exhausted and our son’s disease has impacted our health and our finances. We have recently found Al-Anon and are learning that we are not alone.
The Al-Anon program has been a godsend for our family -once completely broken by alcoholism. I have learned so much.
My son is an alcoholic and it is the most painful thing! He lives with us and nothing has worked for him the last three years through his choices. Al-Anon has helped me see the enabling we did early on, but husband hasn’t been 100 percent on board… our marriage is hanging on by a thread through all this and I have been having stress-related heart palpitations due to all this… He is going to a rehab place soon and is paying for it… the days can’t move fast enough for me for him to get help…
Being a parent of an alcoholic is the hardest. We want to protect our children and are being told by the program to detach. I have been in the program for 8 years and it does get better over time whether they are still drinking or not. Hang in there, this is a wonderful program!
Love this. WOULD LOVE TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE. HUSBAND OF AN ALCOHOLIC
So difficult supporting a child with alcohol or substance use. No manual to follow. Although paid to get our child in a recovery program. Thankful for the changes and growth we’ve seen in last 17 months but no ongoing counseling. 12 Steps are positive! Volunteering in the program helps with growth. Hired by the program but working 24/7 with no days off is difficult mentally for our child. What help finding work or housing once out of the program. #feeling helpless #worried #tryingtostaypositive
This post is a pure reflection of how I feel. My son is also an alcoholic. I don’t know where to start. But I’m glad I decided to join Al-Anon.
Hi my name is Eileen and I’m the parent of an alcoholic, it’s killing me…