I came to Al‑Anon at the suggestion of a family member who was in recovery. I had become so overwhelmed from the consequences of [my loved one’s] alcoholism that I felt I was going insane. I felt so frightened and unresourceful. Since I didn’t know what else to do, I accepted the suggestion. At that first meeting, I sat in the back, listened, and cried. I was welcomed and invited to come back. When I heard the words, “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol— that our lives had become unmanageable,” I knew that this was exactly how I felt—powerless.
So, I came back again and again. I came to realize I was powerless over a lot of people, places, and things. Knowing that helped me calm down in chaotic situations. I could then concentrate on what I could control—myself. I started making decisions—small ones—that were in my control and good for me. For one thing, I went for walks instead of staying in conflicts. Today, I am still powerless over people, places, and things, but I am much more okay with it. I take better care of myself, and I don’t try to control others. I am more mindful of their right to choose their own life. I am so much calmer inside as I go about my business and let others go about theirs. Today I am much easier to live with and work with. My relationships are improving every day, thanks to Al‑Anon.
By Murielle D., New Brunswick
The Forum, April 2020