I remember what it was like to come to my first meeting. Actually, a member of Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) encouraged me to attend. I certainly knew I needed the help.
During the meeting, I was introduced to the members around the table. One member gave me a One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon (B-6) book with a name and phone number in it. The member told me that I was as important to the group as anyone there. I already knew this person and a few of the others as well.
At the time, I was not afraid to join the group, since my alcoholic ex-husband was away, and my six children and I were alone at home. I was determined to find out what caused his drinking, since he always blamed me for it.
The eldest of my children was 11 and had babysat the younger ones before, so I made a pledge that I would go to every possible meeting held in my area. There was also an open A.A. meeting at the end of every month. In between meetings, I read One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon as if my life depended upon it, and trust me, it did.
I cried through the first few meetings. The members comforted me, told me it was okay, and said it was good to cry. I heard bits and pieces in that first meeting that let me know I was welcomed and very encouraged to come back. Three people called me during the week and I knew I was in the right place.
Al‑Anon is a great program for life, and you are always welcome. I’m so glad I joined.
The Forum, March 2021
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I have been living with an alcoholic spouse for going on 15 years now. The manipulation, verbal and financial manipulation is really taking a toll. I know that the best thing for me is to end the marriage but I am fearful of what he might do and we are living in the same house. Have consulted an attorney and do not wish to deal with the vindictive person nor would I believe or choose to stay if he said he would go to treatment…he has done nothing wrong ever in his eyes.
I’m new here…my husband is an alcoholic. It is taking a toll on my marriage and children…he has been to rehab and home now…things are good but a lot is still left but we can get through it together…I just need help. I just need some support and advice from people who are in the same place.
I joined online in October. I’ve not actually attended a meeting but feel it would help more so than online
I just ordered the book and a journal. I’m trying to find a meeting close to me so I’m utilizing this app. That’s my biggest worry though, I’m just gunna cry the whole time and I don’t want to make it about me.