“I had the feeling as I sat in my first Al-Anon meeting that they had been ‘waiting’ for me.”
During our first class at night school a nice woman talked with me and eventually asked if I were married or dating anyone. I told her frankly, “I just ended my last worst relationship.” She laughed and asked, “Did you have a parent who was an alcoholic?” I was speechless, which was rare for me, and finally responded, “How could you know that?”
She asked if I’d like to go with her to an Al-Anon meeting for adult children of alcoholics. Although I couldn’t logically connect my relationship issues with my father’s drinking, especially since he died 15 years before, I still felt curious and said yes.
During the meeting, I read the list of questions from Are You Troubled by Someone’s Drinking? in the newcomers’ packet to see if I qualified to be in the group. I was dumbfounded by answering every question with a “yes.” I had the feeling as I sat in my first Al-Anon meeting that they had been “waiting” for me. It was an odd feeling.
I wasn’t a “joiner” or a fan of “clubs.” But my experience with adult children, and other Al-Anon groups, ended up being not only positive but also a series of revelations.