INTERVIEWER: Hi, Cindy, can you share with us how Al‑Anon helped you cope when your husband’s drinking would upset your family’s plans?
CINDY: Sure. It seemed like my family plans were often so I couldn’t really count on being able to plan anything. We had tickets to a concert one night and I came home, and he was drunk, and we couldn’t go. And my old way of behavior was just to get upset, feel bad, cry, be angry with him. You know, sometimes it was hard to remember that alcoholism is a disease, and it really wasn’t his fault. It was just so easy to take it personally. So, with Al‑Anon, I learned not to just have a plan A, but it was also good to have a plan B or a Plan C or maybe even a plan D. So, if I had tickets to something, I could ask him to go, but I could have a backup. And people in Al‑Anon understood. They understood what I was going through. And they understood that I couldn’t really count on him to be able to go to things with me. Sure. And so, I could call them last minute if he couldn’t go. Sometimes I also learned to just do things on my own. That was almost a way of detachment for me. I would still get me out of the house. I could go to the event. And through Al‑Anon, I learned not to be resentful for being there by myself. And by the time I got home, he was often in bed, and I had a nice, quiet, serene house, so life was, it helped.
INTERVIEWER: Thank you for sharing with us, Cindy.