How do you demonstrate love when detaching ‘with love’?
When dealing with alcoholism, we may find ourselves close to resentment, feeling irritable and unreasonable without knowing it. July’s blog topic is, “How do you demonstrate love when detaching ‘with love’?”
As always, you can also write about Al‑Anon’s three Legacies. This month features Step Seven, Tradition Seven, and Concept Seven.
Sharings on the Member Blog may be used in future Al‑Anon publications.
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I’ve found that when I focus on what’s best for the needy or hurting around me I think less about my struggles.
Before coming to Al-Anon I was not detached from anything as everybody and everything were of my business. I got myself in trouble more than it was necessary but despite that, I never learned to mind my business. I was attached to my misery! It is upon coming to Al-Anon and hearing about detaching with love that I started to slowly experience it. I slowly learned to stand back from people and situations and not get involved. It was not an easy process and it still requires on my part awareness and self-discipline today. I am inclined to want to… Read more »
I allow the other person to take control of their own life. I do not interfere with their decision making and if they make mistakes, I don’t say I told you so and I don’t try to educate them on how they could have done it differently. I give them the respect they deserve by minding my own business not trying to manage theirs.