I can’t take it anymore
My life is in constant chaos
I have no solution and everything I try doesn’t work
It’s miserable

My story, I’ve been married to my alcoholic husband for almost 45 years. After having a valve replacement 10 years ago and then getting a bacterial infection that almost killed him, he had to stay at home. He started getting depressed and started drinking. He would drink and go to work. Was warned to go get help. He did. Stayed sober for about a year and a half. Then started drinking again. He was fired. We’ve had two different intervenes with him. One with friends and one with family. Nothing helped. He would wean off then start back up again.… Read more »

Help!! My spouse is a drunk. He doesn’t drink everyday. Maybe once every few weeks but when he does he gets so drunk that it’s embarrassing. I don’t drink. Recently, I’ve been losing weight and he’s become extremely jealous if I talk to anyone at the gym but some reason it’s ok for him to talk to ladies at the bar when he’s drunk. I know I need to leave cause I haven’t been happy for a long time but don’t have anyone in the immediate area to move in with. He’s done AA meetings awhile back then suddenly stopped… Read more »

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years. He has 4 DUIs. He is an electrician but hasn’t been to work for a week. He starts a new job Monday but with his drinking, I don’t know. I took him to a detox he didn’t stay. I finally packed him a bag and blocked him from my phone. My heart hurts but we can’t enable him. We have to love ourselves enough to say no more. We don’t deserve it. So many nights up, hearing and seeing their dumb mistakes. I’m tired.

We have been married 42 years and I feel it is close to ending. My husband drinks every day , sometimes starting as early as 11:30 am, it goes on all day, every single day. He drinks beer and very rarely hard stuff so he thinks it is okay, but a 12 pack every single day? So he started smoking pot, I freaked out and we came to a compromise, that we would only smoke it together and no more than twice a week, silly me. Well……needless to say, he started sneaking it behind my back. I found his pot… Read more »

I’m just going to leave him and my deposit in this moldy apartment. He can’t take care of himself-he’s 58. I don’t want to care for his mean old personality anymore. He will stalk me of course. He loves me. But he’s controlling, jealous, abusive and pathetic. I am done! I will feel terrible and it will cost $2200 of my deposit not to live with him anymore. But I will be away from the immediate garbage. I am a recreational drinker, maybe highly functioning alcoholic. I am over being sucked in to the drama and depression and petty meanness… Read more »

I am a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and have been living with my girlfriend who is also a alcoholic/anorexic/epileptic,and has started to drink again after 10 months of sobriety. She has a history of alcohol induced siezures. I am scared she will have a seizure while driving or working as a waitress. She refuses any medical help, as I have asked her to seek for many months now. I think it is my civil responsibility to keep her off the roads as she could be dangerous to the public. Of course she refuses my attempts to drive her. I… Read more »

Your posts are so powerful, you are so powerful! To write your situations and share the heartache is bittersweet. I am a daughter of an alcoholic who never drank. I saw the destruction alcohol had on our family and swore to get out of my parents’ home as quickly as I could. I was 15 when I left, and never looked back. The fights at my home were brutal between my parents, my father would hide vodka bottles in my bedroom closet, I’d find them when I was cleaning it out. I didn’t bring friends over to visit, due to… Read more »

The number one thing with an alcoholic is accepting you will NEVER, EVER come before his/her drinking! It has nothing to do with loving you! He/she is addicted to alcohol! One of the first things I had to learn years ago in Al-Anon!

First, thank you to all of you who have shared your stories. It feels like I’m on an island by myself so often and reading your stories let’s me know that I’m not. Although, my heart hurts for each and every one of you. My husband is a high functioning alcoholic, very successful and I am a stay at home mom/homemaker. Like some of you others I have no income of my own. This is my second marriage. I was a single mother for 8 years and raised by a single mother. When I married my husband was amazing, he… Read more »

I had a little bit of hope for my marriage before reading some of the posts. Now I have absolutely no hope at all. I just got married August 2nd of this year. I’m almost 41 years old and I truly have met the love of my life. Or at least I thought I had. Turns out he drinks a lot more than he ever told me he did. He makes my life a living hell. I’ll tell him all the time that it’s not when he’s drinking and being cruel to me that bothers me the most. It’s actually… Read more »

I’ve said so many of the same things I read in the post. It’s so hard to be rejected at the hand of alcohol. My husband decided to start working from home so he can catch the next buzz. I don’t drink and if he knew what he acted like he wouldn’t touch the stuff but I guess he doesn’t have control over it until he decides he needs help. I honestly can’t stand to be around him and I spend most of my time out or in my bedroom. He’s critical, he’s mean, he’s verbally and physically abusive, and… Read more »

I don’t know how to deal with unacceptable behavior…I have tried talking to my husband of 42 years about his drinking but he just doesn’t want to hear it. All he cares about is his next drink. He loves his beer more than me! He’s 63 year old & he’s killing himself…he gets stinkin’ drunk every day since he retired in May 2018. He’s always liked to drink beer but now he’s just a mean drunk & lately he’s been getting so drunk he actually falls down outside in our backyard. He doesn’t eat all day long either. Whenever I… Read more »

This is my story. We have been married for 4 months. Sometimes I wonder why I did it to myself. When he’s sober, he’s caring and kind, crazy cat dad, full of love and compliments. When he”s drunk I’m the worst wife in the world, he hates my hair color, thinks we should get rid of our cats and hates our home. He makes up entire stories and situations that never happen. It’s impossible to ignore or not be dragged into an argument that makes me feel like I’m losing my mind. He gets home from work 2 hours before… Read more »

I speak up, it is hard when my spouse is like this. He is a functioning alcoholic and it makes life much harder. He will be completely fine one minute and the next he will be completely trashed. It constantly happens and not sure if there is a good way I can actually do something.

You have pretty much summed up my life, even though we are oceans apart. I too live with my Husband of 37 years, I think he is what you call a functioning alcoholic, he holds down a full time job, drinks daily whether he is working or not, he has days off in between shifts and these days are the worst, he becomes a verbally abusive monster. I have covered for him for many years, because of shame and embarrassment. I have no social life whatsoever for fear of having friends come over and witness his behaviour, he’s a monster.… Read more »

My boyfriend has completely destroyed my entire life with his drinking. I’ve been begging him to stop for almost a year and a half and he still comes home drunk from work multiple nights per week or sits in the other room and drinks behind my back and then comes in to bed shitfaced and verbally abusive. He calls me ‘stupid bitch’ and worse when he’s drunk and I yell at him about it. He regularly urinates/vomits on the floor then acts like it’s my job to clean up because I haven’t been able to hold a job the whole… Read more »

Hi where do I start my husband has been binge drinking for over thirty years three times a week he goes out demands I pick him up at two o clock in the morning calls me continuously if I ignore so I switch phone off then he comes in angry screams up the stairs calling me nasty things he also lets my dogs out then I have to get up to secure them then he verbally abuses me he also wets the bed he sees nothing wrong with this behaviour. Even though I work fifty hours a week. he is… Read more »

Hello, just wanted to post my experience. I have been to Al-Anon and while I agree with most of the program, I don’t like the feeling like we can’t talk about the situations and express our emotions. So I am glad this open forum here to vent. I met my husband in high school. We instantly fell in love and were best friends. He was the most amazing boy I ever saw, absolute stud. He was also very sensitive and we had an intimate emotional connection. I noticed in the early years that he had a hard time controlling his… Read more »

To my friends and family I am: • Kind • Patient • Highly respected • Compassionate • Humble • Always willing to help • A great listener • Caring • Sensitive • Non-judgemental • A great wife • A great cook • Happily married for almost 7 years • A home owner • A successful career woman To my students I am: • Inspiring • Their favorite instructor • Making a difference in their lives • A role model • Knowledgeable • Funny To my work colleagues I am: • Creative • Very efficient • intelligent • Supportive • Organized… Read more »