My husband drinks everyday, mostly just beer but sometimes he mixes with the hard stuff. When he drinks the hard stuff he gets mean. I have 2 boys with him and they are old enough now to know when something is wrong. This past weekend, my husband got black out drunk and it was the first time that I knew my kids felt scared of what he might do. Both of my boys were crying and didn’t want to be home because my husband was scaring them. My youngest told me he held a pillow in his hand because he… Read more »

My husband and I have been married a year but together for 12. He recently started drinking heavily but hadn’t really drank much since high school. (Insists he’s depressed but doesn’t work since he lost his job after our wedding, has no responsibilities as I’m the bread winner and provider begrudgingly). Since he’s been drinking more regularly it’s caused several issues, his family has been able to manipulate him in his drunk state to say horrible things to me, he reacts rudely to anything I say that he doesn’t instantly agree with and it’s even been so bad that multiple… Read more »

I am living with someone who binge drinks a couple days a week or more. He sometimes blacks out and does not remember what happened …Is he considered an alcoholic?

At my breaking point, My husband and I are married 14 years in November and honestly I dunno if we are gonna make it. We recently moved from New York to North Carolina and its been nothing but problems when my husband drinks. He got laid off from his job back in 2014 and was placed on early retirement in the form of disability. However, I find him to be very miserable. He gets drunk, he says lots of mean things such as “he doesn’t give a [***] about anybody”, “he’s above me and my whole family”, he will even… Read more »

My husband has always drank since we started dating. We’ve been together for 9 years and have a 7 year old son. He drank heavy but he never was mean until the last few years. He did not work until 3 years ago and his behavior has gotten periodically worse. Within the last year he has started drinking heavy every day. He cusses me and says cuss words in front of our son which he used to hush people for saying crap in front of him. He has punched multiple holes in our walls and when I decide to leave… Read more »

My soon to be husband 11/7/20 drinks really bad when we first met I use to drink with him but not like this….once I got pregnant everything stopped with me and he started drinking more than ever…he will drink 3 bottles of any dark liquor just in one weekend and two during the week by himself. His body is changing, he is starting to get dark marks on his stomach and it’s really tight and we have five kids, two from his previous and two from mine and one together… It’s so bad I don’t think I want any liquor… Read more »

My husband loves his whiskey. He loves it more than us it feels like. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He’s been binge drinking since I met him. It’s hit or miss if he’s gonna get irate and start destroying things in the house and saying disgusting and hurtful things. I’ve fixed dozens of holes in walls, replaced doors, electronics, vacuums… you name it. He gets violently mad over the smallest things. I live in fear of who I’m gonna get as soon as I see that Makers seal busted. I was abused in my first marriage for 15 years. I… Read more »

My husband is an alcoholic. We’ve been married almost 9 years and we’ve got 2 small children, 7 and 5. He’s had issues with drinking for as long as I’ve known him but when we met we were young and I thought it was a stage… He’s nearly 40 years old now and still acting the same way he did when he was in his 20’s. He holds down a professional career, has advanced degrees and makes good money but he binge drinks on the weekends. Recently, our kids have started to notice daddy acting strange, slurring words, stumbling, screaming… Read more »

My husband is an alcoholic who drinks everyday. We’ve been together 6 years. I feel so stupid that I didn’t realise until he’d moved in with me 4 years ago and we married a month later. It’s all he thinks about. He gets up in the morning as nice as pie then the drinking starts and he gets more and more argumentative and unpleasant to be around. He repeats himself, doesn’t make sense, criticises everyone in his life, on TV, my family until I leave the situation or he decides to go for his daily nap for 2 hours then… Read more »

Why does my soon to-be ex husband call me when he is drunk…he calls continually all night! Saying horrible things…

My wife is an alcoholic. She used to temper her drinking then she found wine. She goes through the equivalent of 16-20 bottles or more a month. There is barely a night she doesn’t drink. She is rude and short tempered the next day. The Advil doesn’t last more than a week. We used to be able to at least discuss the drinking, but that is gone. She is increasingly lazy, hungover, forgetful and has insane mood swings. I came home without wine and she went from happy to pouting and throwing a fit like a toddler which my 12… Read more »

I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 12 years and was a single mother of three before that …and he’s an alcoholic…he was an amazing person when we first met and then after a few years he got back into the heavy drinking ..can’t stop at four five no, the type who has to go till we can’t walk and fall..lost his license for drinking and driving once but that will only come again as he still does it …he’s 57 and hangs with 30 year- old. I use to be the one to pick him up,… Read more »

I believe my husband to be an alcoholic. He binge drinks and can get through 24 bottles/cans in one session. He is abusive and will often break things in the house. He is a racist and rationality of things is distorted. Occasionally it becomes physical but mostly verbal. He had collapsed and I have had to start CPR thank good I am trained. He won’t go for help as he denied I had to do it even though there were witnesses. My fear is not him dying but me having to prevent it, as it made me realize do I… Read more »

I married my husband 3 years ago. After dating for 7 years. I stopped taking birth control once we were engaged. And got pregnant shortly after. So we now have a 3 year old. I have seen warning signs of his alcohol abuse throughout the years. However I have also drank along with him. Until I finally had to stop enabling him. He was a restaurant manager. Drinking on the job most days. There have been nights he came home ‘late’ after work. When he actually would get off work, and go drink at the bar. Nights that he totaled… Read more »

I’m a single mother with a 4 year old son and live with my mother… Is she an alcoholic? I believe so… Is she a nasty drunk… YES! All my life she has drunk and now I’m approaching 30 I’ve had enough. I suffer from anxiety and depression which I have medication for but I have had a life full of nasty, drunk abusive behaviour and now I’ve finally come to the conclusion that I don’t have to put up with this. I’ve tried to help so many times but all I get is “I like to drink… I will… Read more »

You don’t. I don’t even know what to do anymore. I am at my wits end as friends never stick by me and always leave after one argument or disagreement and at least I have him even if he swears at me and calls me names I would be going nuts due to social isolation. There is no solution to dealing with this as I myself have tried everything and when you’ve never had a firm foundation or solid support system in your life you can basically are forced to expect the worst outcome out of every situation or just… Read more »

I can’t take it anymore
My life is in constant chaos
I have no solution and everything I try doesn’t work
It’s miserable

My story, I’ve been married to my alcoholic husband for almost 45 years. After having a valve replacement 10 years ago and then getting a bacterial infection that almost killed him, he had to stay at home. He started getting depressed and started drinking. He would drink and go to work. Was warned to go get help. He did. Stayed sober for about a year and a half. Then started drinking again. He was fired. We’ve had two different intervenes with him. One with friends and one with family. Nothing helped. He would wean off then start back up again.… Read more »

Help!! My spouse is a drunk. He doesn’t drink everyday. Maybe once every few weeks but when he does he gets so drunk that it’s embarrassing. I don’t drink. Recently, I’ve been losing weight and he’s become extremely jealous if I talk to anyone at the gym but some reason it’s ok for him to talk to ladies at the bar when he’s drunk. I know I need to leave cause I haven’t been happy for a long time but don’t have anyone in the immediate area to move in with. He’s done AA meetings awhile back then suddenly stopped… Read more »

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years. He has 4 DUIs. He is an electrician but hasn’t been to work for a week. He starts a new job Monday but with his drinking, I don’t know. I took him to a detox he didn’t stay. I finally packed him a bag and blocked him from my phone. My heart hurts but we can’t enable him. We have to love ourselves enough to say no more. We don’t deserve it. So many nights up, hearing and seeing their dumb mistakes. I’m tired.