For the past 4 years my partner has been an alcoholic. I had no idea until this May. I just thought this was him that the liquor brought out what he repressed. But with every drink he became a man I didn’t notice. Then in 2018 I got pregnant and I was ready to change my life. To be the best mother I could possibly be. He wasn’t ready but I still held on to all the great things we had and he was. Then he cheated on me and he blamed me. He belittled and destroyed me in every… Read more »

I have been friends with D for 20 years- through losing his job due to alcohol, putting up with his rages and toxic behavior. Covid isn’t the reason he’s drinking more, it’s just another excuse to binge more frequently and he is abusive in a destructive way to anyone who is around. I felt the weight of being one of his only friends left, but this week I got a huge dose of abuse and feel like it is wearing down my mental health to remain in this relationship. I have to cut him out, none of our interactions are… Read more »

Prayers to all

I am a double winner and approaching two years of good sobriety and 18 months of Al-Anon. My husband and I are separated and live in different provinces. He is attending Al-Anon. He was mentally, physically, sexually and financially abusive with me. He is my second husband. When he is not in his “active” disease of drinking rye and wine, he is funny, kind and compassionate. Unfortunately he has had many affairs with all of his partners and has lost two previous relationships prior to ours due to his extreme compulsive behaviours. He would throw things, call me disgusting names,… Read more »

I reunited at 28 with a best friend, lets call her Ash. I met her when I was 9. She was always a wild child. When we started to drift apart, she hung out with the popular partiers in high school while I had a closer knit group that didn’t do those things. She ended up switching schools and getting addicted to meth for 6 years. Fast forward to 28 years old where we reunite and we become roommates. Ash is 6 years sober from meth but now has replaced it with alcohol. She was an all day drinker. She… Read more »

I seperated from my husband last year after a 19 year marriage ( we were together for 24 years). He is an alcoholic and it has been a rollercoaster ride until last year when I became so terrified for my own mental health and the effect his alcoholic behaviour was having on our 3 children, that I asked him to leave. It is a family disease. We have all been affected massively by his alcoholism. I see my story in all of your stories and I feel so sad for you all. Alcoholism destroyed our marriage but it was also… Read more »

I’ve dealt with neighbors who when they get drunk, they argue & fight. I get talked about, I sometimes get dragged into things I always become a target – I get accused of things I didn’t do, made fun of, disrespected, or like a while back – they’ll try to egg me on into a physical fight. I get called out of my name more times than I can count. There have been many times I’ve tried to walk away and go somewhere else – I’ve been followed and they’ll try to pick a fight or spout verbal abuse –… Read more »

My husband tonight began drinking at 3pm, before I arrived home from running errands. I have expressed to him in the past that I do not like it when he drinks around the kids when I am not there. I have also told him that his drinking leaves me to carry the load of responsibilities in our family. He disregards me and laughs it off. Tonight, he knew I was upset with him after he did not help get the toddler ready for bed like I asked. Instead, he sat down to watch tv. When I became upset, he tried… Read more »

My boyfriend of 6 years loves whiskey. Too much. When we first got together he was what I consider an alcoholic. He would wake up and drink all day, for weeks. After some legal troubles and me leaving him, things got better. He’d only drink once a month or so, but he’s completely unpredictable. Sometimes he is funny and goofy. But most times, he is so evil. He becomes somebody who I don’t even know. He says the most hurtful vile things, bringing up past arguments that have been resolved, throwing things around our home, breaking my things, you name… Read more »

My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married for 12 years. I have a 6 year old and I decided to leave my marriage. After investing time, money, and tears trying to get him “sober and fix”. I decided to take care of myself and my son. I am not a savior, I love him, but is not my Battle. Thank God, I found a stable job more than a year ago that allowed me to get my son in a daycare and started to get financially independent. Wich is helping me to get my self-esteem back. I do… Read more »

I have been married 11 years (together for 15) to my husband. When we first got together he would drink on weekends or at parties. He hurt his back about 9 years ago and he started to drink everyday in large quantities. To the point he’d drink half a 1.75 liter bottle in one day. I walk on eggshells every day for the fact that he may start an argument at anytime. He’s highly critical of my actions, behaviors, way of raising the kids. He’s always right and hardly ever apologies because he always has a “valid” reason for his… Read more »

My fiance is an alcoholic. So am I. We are also ex heroin and meth addicts. When I got pregnant I quit, he went to rehab and quit the drugs, but now has turned to alcohol. He knows I was a blackout drunk way before the pregnancy. I’ve began craving to drink due to depression, just losing my sister to addiction and never got to say goodbye due to corona virus, and just my past addiction also I guess. He leaves beer in the fridge and goes to work, and it could be only two beers. If i drink them… Read more »

My husband drinks everyday, mostly just beer but sometimes he mixes with the hard stuff. When he drinks the hard stuff he gets mean. I have 2 boys with him and they are old enough now to know when something is wrong. This past weekend, my husband got black out drunk and it was the first time that I knew my kids felt scared of what he might do. Both of my boys were crying and didn’t want to be home because my husband was scaring them. My youngest told me he held a pillow in his hand because he… Read more »

My husband and I have been married a year but together for 12. He recently started drinking heavily but hadn’t really drank much since high school. (Insists he’s depressed but doesn’t work since he lost his job after our wedding, has no responsibilities as I’m the bread winner and provider begrudgingly). Since he’s been drinking more regularly it’s caused several issues, his family has been able to manipulate him in his drunk state to say horrible things to me, he reacts rudely to anything I say that he doesn’t instantly agree with and it’s even been so bad that multiple… Read more »

I am living with someone who binge drinks a couple days a week or more. He sometimes blacks out and does not remember what happened …Is he considered an alcoholic?

At my breaking point, My husband and I are married 14 years in November and honestly I dunno if we are gonna make it. We recently moved from New York to North Carolina and its been nothing but problems when my husband drinks. He got laid off from his job back in 2014 and was placed on early retirement in the form of disability. However, I find him to be very miserable. He gets drunk, he says lots of mean things such as “he doesn’t give a [***] about anybody”, “he’s above me and my whole family”, he will even… Read more »

My husband has always drank since we started dating. We’ve been together for 9 years and have a 7 year old son. He drank heavy but he never was mean until the last few years. He did not work until 3 years ago and his behavior has gotten periodically worse. Within the last year he has started drinking heavy every day. He cusses me and says cuss words in front of our son which he used to hush people for saying crap in front of him. He has punched multiple holes in our walls and when I decide to leave… Read more »

My soon to be husband 11/7/20 drinks really bad when we first met I use to drink with him but not like this….once I got pregnant everything stopped with me and he started drinking more than ever…he will drink 3 bottles of any dark liquor just in one weekend and two during the week by himself. His body is changing, he is starting to get dark marks on his stomach and it’s really tight and we have five kids, two from his previous and two from mine and one together… It’s so bad I don’t think I want any liquor… Read more »

My husband loves his whiskey. He loves it more than us it feels like. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He’s been binge drinking since I met him. It’s hit or miss if he’s gonna get irate and start destroying things in the house and saying disgusting and hurtful things. I’ve fixed dozens of holes in walls, replaced doors, electronics, vacuums… you name it. He gets violently mad over the smallest things. I live in fear of who I’m gonna get as soon as I see that Makers seal busted. I was abused in my first marriage for 15 years. I… Read more »

My husband is an alcoholic. We’ve been married almost 9 years and we’ve got 2 small children, 7 and 5. He’s had issues with drinking for as long as I’ve known him but when we met we were young and I thought it was a stage… He’s nearly 40 years old now and still acting the same way he did when he was in his 20’s. He holds down a professional career, has advanced degrees and makes good money but he binge drinks on the weekends. Recently, our kids have started to notice daddy acting strange, slurring words, stumbling, screaming… Read more »