I feel a little better knowing I’m not alone in dealing with the verbally abusive end of an alcoholic spouse

My husband constantly drinks, every night but most heavily Thurs, Fri, Sat and Sunday he is hammered. I go to bed at 7pm just so I don’t have to be around him when he gets off of work. He disgusts me when he drinks, he averages 1 beer every 10-15 minutes. On Christmas he drank almost a whole case in 3 hours. All weekend he was saying how much stuff he was going to get done around the house and how productive he was going to be. Me and my daughter went on a walk and was home by noon.… Read more »

I’m new to this but my husband and I just got back together after a year split. I left him for grabbing me by the throat and trying to throw me down the stairs. That was the last straw after putting up with worse behavior for 14 years. I can’t have friends because of fear of him either trying to make passes at them, and yes I couldn’t ever go somewhere or do things without him so they had to come to my place, and he has always gone after my family in drunk rages against me to pick fights.… Read more »

I’ve been married for 30 years to a man I truly loved. That is before he lost his job, lied about making house payment for months because he’s a full blown alcoholic. He has become so mentally abusive and it’s hell! I have been out of work for years due to disability and I don’t know where to go. I’m raising grandchildren and they love him but his moods are so bizarre, I cannot let them live this way anymore. So lost and desperate to get away.

My husband and I have been married 17 years. He has a severe drinking problem. He is a disabled vet used to be on a lot of pain pills prescribed by doctors. I was proud of him for getting off and I hated the pain pills and how they made him but drinking is even worse with him. He drinks every single night until he is drunk. Drinking makes him mean and angry. Every night is like walking on egg shells but every 10 nights are so is pure hell. Something switches in his brain and he drinks even more… Read more »

My wife of 19 yrs has developed a binge drinking problem. She starts and doesn’t know when to stop drinking. 2015 she was so bad that she drank herself jaundice and there wasn’t a damn thing I could do about it. Since then she has recovered but her liver does have scar damage, doctor says her liver is healthy-but since then there have been more episodes of her binging and it will go on for 7-14 days of nothing but drink till past out and get up and do it again. Right now she is going on 11 days of… Read more »

My husband is a disabled vet with SEVERE PTSD AND TBI. I try to cut him slack. But he’s an alcoholic and for the past year it’s been BAD. Every afternoon he drinks till he’s drunk! Hard alcohol. So he’s mean! He belittles me, picks fights. I try to stay away in another part if the house but he finds me just to be mean. It sometimes goes on for hours as I sit there crying begging him to stop. Then the next day he apologizes and promises to get help. Only it’s Groundhog Day EVERY SINGLE DAY! Tonight he… Read more »

My wife an I have been together for 10 years. She will always do the speaking over you scenario, attacks my side of the family scenario. Recently the cops came and put her in jail for 3 days, I thought well now she won’t harass and be the aggressor anymore. Her main topic of conversation is a conspiracy theory, or how the government wants to kill us. This is a daily topic in my life, I can’t use logic to dissuade her from these ideas of just having a peaceful life. I don’t want to leave her like this either….I… Read more »

My wife is an alcoholic.
MEAN.

I’m not going to play victim here. I have a ADD and I sometimes have outbursts of anger toward my husband. We’ve been together for several years and man when times are good they are GOOD. I love him with all my heart. Sometimes when I slip up and “beat his brow” (not really with demands, but when I get angry I pull random “problems” outta my a**). He’s developed a ptsd from it and we can usually grumble it out…but recently he’s been drinking. Few times a week. Some of the days are even tolerable. He’ll be jolly. When… Read more »

My husband of 18 years has always been a alcoholic. So many different downs with legal troubles, fights, car accidents, lost jobs, broken promises more then I can remember. He’s always sorry when he’s sober and always says this is the last time. In 2014 he was in jail and sentenced to a men’s sober living treatment center. Best 2 years of my life and the happiest I’ve ever been with him. But the day they released him of treatment he went back to drinking and my life has never been the same since. Alcohol is like a cancer that… Read more »

Everyone tells me what a great husband I have. He does have a great job and provides. He’s kind and does housework, yard work etc. But when he drinks it’s a different story. 10 yrs he was awful and he promised not to drink again. That didn’t last. He’s mean when he drinks. Last April he hit and pushed his adult son, leaving him bloody with a dislocated knee. I was screaming for him to stop. He promised he wouldn’t drink liquor again. Well, now he’s drinking liquor again and says he never made that promise. He drinks daily. The… Read more »

My ex boyfriend I was with him for 15 years. He drinks, he does not realize how it hurts. I had weight loss operation 9 months ago and he said he wished I died on the table.

I had endured a verbally abusive and unpredictable wife when she had been drinking, which wasn’t every day but when she decided she wanted to drink she’d cause all sorts of chaos. The final straw came when she was verbally abusing me openly in public at an airport, on the bus on the way to the plane and on the flight. It was only when she passed out that I decided I was going to leave her at the airport (it was her home town and had family to stay with) So, that’s exactly what I did. That was the… Read more »

I divorced my x husband of 10 years. We were together for 15 years. True I drank right along with him but I grew out if it. He hasn’t. Now my current husband sits outside every single night drinking and listening to rap music and he is 49. He knows he shouldn’t do it but he keeps doing it. I dont know what I should do. I know I can’t change anyone and I know I dont want to live like this forever either

I have been diagnosed with Corona virus 5 days ago and my husband has been drunk and mean almost every night not physical but mentally. I can’t take it anymore. I can’t believe he would do this when I am sick. I don’t know what to do can’t leave because we are both quarantined.

When my fiancé and I first got together, he hardly drank. Once in a while maybe, but he got verbally abusive twice and I just passed it off as “that’s the booze talking,” but it made me very VERY paranoid and frightened every time he drank. Now, he drinks every. single. night. He says it’s due to high work stress. There has been more drunk verbal abuse, I’m living on edge all the time. It’s like I live in perpetual never ending fear. When he comes home from work, I should be happy he’s home so we can spend time… Read more »

I am tired of feeling obligated to bite my tongue because “I have a good man in my life” if that’s the case then let’s switch the roles and see if the same rule applies…it wouldn’t. I work in a bar so I will tell you 1st hand what I’m about to say is as real as it gets because I’ve seen the most committed hands down, best men in the world cheat on their wives/girlfriends … EVERY man cheats, but if he loves you enough he won’t get caught. Please understand when I say that, it is very true….… Read more »

Well where do start … last night was probably the worst scare of my life. We sleep in different rooms because I cannot stand the smell of alcohol in the air on him and in the morning. @ 1:30 Last night I went downstairs to check on our son and I was like what’s that smell ? I could smell something burning. I rushed into the kitchen to find a pan left on the burner on high heat. With Napkins on the stove top a plastic cup that was half melted on the stove top as well I was like… Read more »

I am in the same situation as you. I KNOW I am not ‘crazy’ as my husband defines it, but I do wonder if I’m crazy for staying with him. There is one difference. My husband won’t do counseling. So, I’m on my own. It’s very difficult living with the thought that I have chosen to stay in the relationship, especially with kids. I truly don’t know if I’d be better off leaving…scary either way.