Has alcoholism affected your children?

Welcome to First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery from Al-Anon Family Groups. This is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

Today we have Elizabeth with us. Elizabeth is an Al-Anon member and the mother of three sons.

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2017-07-28T08:58:08+00:00 January 16, 2009|Categories: Alateen, Alcoholic Child, Alcoholic Spouse or Partner, Common Concerns, Grandchildren|

31 Comments

  1. M A September 2010 at 10:23 am

    Wow. I felt as if I was listening to myself. I’ve been attending Al-Anon meetings for a few months now, and it seems each day I find something else in my life that relates to a story or a Step from these meetings. It’s incredible to realize that my entire life (I met my husband at 19 and married him at 25…we are currently going through divorce/custody proceedings after 21 years of marriage) has been all about alcoholism.

    I made everything in our lives about him–covering up with co-workers, family, friends, our sons. I lost me. It took ME hitting rock bottom (overdose of pain medication trying to sleep) for me to get a clue. I’m working hard at getting me back–something no one else around me understands. We all know the comments…”You have to move on…”, “You’ll be fine in a few months,” etc.

    Not so simple, huh? Al-Anon meetings are a safe place to talk about how YOU are, and how you are doing–and the other members are right there with you in every way. I wish there were meetings locally every day! Thank you for the podcasts–they get me through the week!

  2. Paula June 2010 at 7:58 am

    All the stories sound so familiar. My fiance’ has a functioning alcoholic son who now lives in his own apartment but is always at his dad’s house. His father is still enabling him much to my dismay, and he knows he isn’t helping him but he does it anyway. I get so frustrated. His father takes care of his dog, claiming he has shift work so he can’t do what he needs to take care of the dog. I say he needs to get rid of the dog. I have stopped walking the dog with my fiance’ because I feel that is just enabling Matt. I am so sick and tired of living this way, but I am very much in love with his dad. When we get time away from all Matt’s drama, we have a wonderful time together.

    So frustrated!!!

  3. jean June 2010 at 11:42 pm

    It was really good to hear you. I am a child of 2 alcoholics. I thought when I had my 2 children I was going to do it different. Now I know control is one of the symptoms of this disease. I passed on everything I learned and didn’t learn from living in an alcoholic home. There were no tools. Everything was a secret and you didn’t talk about what was going on, so when I got married and became a rage-aholic I didn’t know what was wrong.

    Why couldn’t I fix everything and everyone? Then I found Al-Anon and it did change my life. I learned tools and I can practice them whenever I need them and nobody can take them from me. My kids are 20 and 18 now and life still has its challenges, but today my life is much more peaceful. I am glad I looked at this website. It has helped me remember I do have Al-Anon when I am struggling to control my kids who have been affected by the disease of alcoholism.

  4. Eva May 2010 at 2:55 pm

    Hi, I am a product of an alcoholic and end up hurt many times, since I only attract drinkers and abusers. And I truly don’t know why. I’ll be 50 this month and have one child at home, who will be 18 soon. She is disabled. My continued magnetism to all the wrong ones has ended. I’m accepting the alone status for sanity reasons. It has effected my children, from my two oldest hating me to not allowed to see my grandchildren, since I have rules like no drinks or drugs allowed at my house.

    Genetics has to play a big role or I’m being punished for something that wasn’t in my control. I believe in let go and let god and this too shall pass (it’s just not passing fast enough). Take care from Eva, one who knows the effects it has on kids and adults. I wonder if the Guiness Book of Records takes count of the alcoholic excuse-making. I’ve heard a few zillion.

  5. p May 2010 at 6:13 pm

    I have finally admitted to myself that my husband is an alcoholic. I have swept so many things under the rug, trying to keep the family together–thinking it is best to live with Mom and Dad, to live in a house where I am always to blame for his drinking and bad behaviors, his sneaking out of the house or starting a fight so he can leave and go to the bar. Staying out all night. If I didn’t badger him. I’m just having fun. I don’t want to be miserable like you. What’s the difference, 1 beer or 9. I am who I am, like it or not.

    All excuses and I just can’t do it anymore. I am mentally exhausted and drained. I have 2 beautiful kids and do not want them to think this is normal or ok behavior. He has had friends and family members all try to talk to him about his drinking. Now he says they are not his friends. He is in such denial. He says he stopped, but he still has the alcoholic behaviors–mean, spiteful, vindictive. My kids and I have left. He refuses to get help and just keeps demanding we come home.

    I have attended my first Al-Anon meeting this week. I was scared, but then realized everyone here is in the same boat. I did not speak, but I am hoping that in time I will feel comfortable enough to do so. After reading all the stories on how helpful Al-Anon is for everyone, I am hoping I get to that point in my life too.

  6. Angela A. April 2010 at 11:51 pm

    Because my husband found sobriety when our children were fairly young, I wanted to believe that they had not been affected by the disease of alcoholism in our home. What I didn’t fully understand then was that alcoholism is a family illness, one that can be passed from generation to generation regardless of whether or not there is the presence of alcohol and alcohol use or abuse within the home.

    I wasn’t even aware that the “-isms” were present in my own childhood home; my parents didn’t drink alcohol, and yet the fact that my mother was raised with active alcoholism had very much affected our home life. The perfectionism, the secret-keeping, the denial of problems, the “stuffing” of emotions, the black-and-white thinking, the caretaking and enabling inherent in an alcoholic home were all things that she’d learned as a child and she couldn’t help but pass those behaviors on to us three daughters. My mother did the very best she could with the tools and knowledge and love that she had. It isn’t her fault, and I don’t believe it is a coincidence either, that all three of us managed to marry men whose drinking created problems in their lives.

    Of my sisters, I am the only one who has been blessed to have found and embraced the Al-Anon program. Thanks to the recovery I have been privileged to enjoy thus far, I have hope that I can do my part to break the hold of alcoholism on my family, beginning with myself and my children.

    Now adults, my children have very much manifested the effects of growing up in an alcoholic home, despite my “wishful thinking.” Thanks to my clearer understanding of this disease, I do not have despair about how alcoholism may affect their lives.

    I have taken the action necessary to put the healing into motion: I have lived and walked the 12 steps of Al-Anon. I have let go of my resentments and fears. I have made amends to my children for my part in the dysfunction of our home during the drinking years. I have nurtured my relationship with a Power greater than myself. I have done my very best to model for them a new way of living in recovery. I continue to make my recovery a priority in my life.

    And I have reaped the benefits! Today I have wonderful relationships with each of my children. I know how to mind my own business and stay out of theirs. This allows them the dignity of their own choices.

    Each day I entrust my children to their own Higher Power(s). At times when, in my human experience, I become fearful about how alcoholism might rear its ugly head in their lives, I remember that as long as I do my part in service to the Al-Anon program, it will be there for my children when they are ready to embrace it, in just the same way that it was for me. Therein lies the hope for my grandchildren and great-grandchildren!

  7. Jennifer March 2010 at 6:08 pm

    Elizabeth’s story seems to be mine to a T. I haven’t been to Al-Anon, but I have been to AA with my husband a few times. My husband is an alcoholic/addict who through the court system, after his first DUI, was forced into treatment. He has now been in treatment and clean and sober for almost 90 days. I am just now learning how Al-Anon can help me and am thankful for this type of meeting online.

  8. Louren February 2010 at 8:18 pm

    I am fortunate that I have been an Al-Anon member for almost 4 years. It took a very long time for me to go to Al-Anon because I thought when my husband got sober (6yrs) he was therefore ‘solved’. Yeah, I was very wrong.

    Elizabeth’s story is very similar to my own and I appreciate her open and honest sharing. To this day it’s one day at a time. Thank you.

    The podcasts are an excellent way to connect with the wider world and I will encourage my fellowship members here in Christchurch, New Zealand, to log on.

    Yours in Serenity….

  9. ann January 2010 at 10:05 am

    My son is back using again after being clean 11 months. He has been in and out of treatment for the last 5 years. During the time he was clean my mom and I co-signed a loan for a car for my son and furniture. What a big mistake that was. He abandoned the car downtown while using again and sold a t.v. that was worth $1,000.00. and he did not own the t.v. He has not even made one payment on the t.v. It’s gone. My mom and I are in debt thousands of dollars now. I helped pay for his rent and now he will probably get evicted. He has had a notice already. I have purchased food for him and then he took it all back to the store for drug money.

    I spoke with my sponsor and she gave me Step One to study again. I am so worse off than before because I am in so much debt over this addiction. I am on a disability and just make it month to month. I do not know what to do about all these debts and I am so overwhelmed. My son has nothing and all his clothes he has sold for drugs. I am doing my best to just get to meetings. I have suffered from depression before and now I am not sleeping and just in constant worry. I pray to God for my son and that’s all I can do. I know parents who have lost their loved ones to this disease, and now the reality is that I may be one of those parents. God bless all of you who are affected by this horrible obbsession of alcohol and drugs, and the ones obssessing over their loved ones.

  10. Rose M January 2010 at 1:59 pm

    I sponsor an Alateen meeting in Florida. Alcoholism is a family disease and it effects
    all family members. Al-Anon has given me hope and a better way of living. The teens have shown me courage by coming to their meeting and taught me how to be truthful. They are a blessing.

  11. Xena December 2009 at 12:56 am

    This was my first time here online. My boss has lent me the Courage to Change book. I keep it in my purse and refer to it often for serenity and hope.

    I am married to an alcoholic and I have 3 children and a grandson. They are my children from a previous marriage. I left my husband for months because of his drinking, lying, cheating , verbal abuse, violent outbursts and irresponsibilities. He ended up in jail for a year and during that time I was right there for him. Visited him 3 times a week, sent him money, paid/sent weekly packages. I felt in love with him all over again. He was sober. When he was released he moved back in with me and two of my children. It was all good for 3 months; then the drinking started, money problems, verbal abuse, etc.

    I ended up on medical leave for 4 months for stress, anxiety and depression. He was never there for me. Just put me down, said nothing was wrong with me but I have become a lazy bitch, etc. If I keep going to the ER for my nervous breakdowns I am afraid they will admit me into a psycho ward. I have gained 40 lbs since he has been back. I have scars on one arm from eczema. I have lost my self-esteem, motivation and my wonderful relationships with my children, family and friends. He ruins every special occasion and holiday I once loved. I want him out of my life. He harasses me and tries to blame me for everything.

    Today he I thought he was going to kill me and anyone in front of me by chasing me and tailgating me. I was so scared that I thought I would end up hurting someone or killing them by rearending them if they were in front of me. I am at a loss. But reading and listening to others gives me hope.
    Thank you all for sharing your painful stories.

  12. ann December 2009 at 10:59 am

    My son has been in and out of treatment for the last five years. He is my only son, an adult child of an alcoholic–his dad. He has been clean for 11 months. I know because he has lived with me. December 1st he moved on his own and left all his AA material here. To my knowledge he has not been to a meeting since he moved. His behavior is like when he was using drugs–asking for money and keeping his phone off.

    I spoke to my sponsor (I thank God every day she is in my life) with sadness and she listened lovingly. I told her that I am only doing well and feeling happy when he is going to his meetings and not using. She went on to say that I should go back to Steps 1, 2, and 3, that I must remain happy and conduct a happy loving life if my son is using or not. It’s so hard. I am back to hoping he will get arrested so he can get the help he needs.

    When he was using I prayed that he got arrested, that way he could not harm anyone or himself. Now I will pray for God’s will for him, as I believe that my son only came from me but he is really God’s to do His will. This concept gets very confusing for me at times, but I must go back constantly to Steps 1, 2, and 3. Thank you, and God Bless.

  13. Amy September 2009 at 12:55 pm

    My gosh…I felt like you were talking about my life…my feelings, and listening to this has really helped. I am going to go to my first meeting tonight.

  14. Laurie September 2009 at 12:38 pm

    My husband has been clean for seven months. He was a pharmacist before he got addicted to pharmaceutical drugs. He lost his job a year ago and almost went to jail. He was charged with 2 felonies and lost his drivers license for 3 years. We cannot appeal it until May 2010, when he has served 1/2 of the revocation of his license.

    He does not seem to understand how much chaos and stress he has put on me. Trying to work full time and get the kids to all the sports and dancing every week has really taken a toll on me. He cannot understand why I am always so cranky. I have been in therapy for almost a year. I am still very bitter about what his addiction has done to our family.

    I am trying to move on, but the financial burden of everything is getting to be too much. He still does not have a job where he is making much money to contribute. Everything financially is on my shoulders. He is working part time for a neighbor and if he makes $200 a week I am lucky. He keeps telling me that he can’t do anything else until he gets his drivers license back.

    I am not sure whether or not our marriage is going to make it. My oldest son is so angry at him. He does not want anything to do with his dad right now. I thought that I was by all this anger, but it keeps slipping back into my life.

  15. christine August 2009 at 12:20 am

    Thank you, Elizabeth, for the podcast. I know I need to go to Al-Anon meetings. My husband is an alcoholic and addict. I understand when you said you feel miserable. I feel like my life revolves around his disease. We have four children, and my life should revolve around them. They should make me so happy and they do until my husband drinks, does drugs, or worse is when he wants to and he picks a fight with me so as to have an excuse to use. I get screwed no matter what.

    I want so bad to learn to disassociate from his drama. I would love to just enjoy my children. They will be grown before I know it and I will have missed all this time. I will make an honest effort to make it to some meetings. Transportation is a problem, but I will work it out. Thank you, again, for sharing your story. It is comforting to know I am not alone.

  16. D. August 2009 at 2:42 pm

    My husband is an active alcoholic in denial. The beginning of this podcast was almost as if the woman was speaking the thoughts in my head. He’s told me outright the drinking is my fault–but he was doing it some before we met, so it can’t be. He makes me and the kids feel like we’re a burden and annoy him. He yells, wastes hundreds of dollars a month, won’t shower or brush his teeth for a week while bingeing, and shows no sign of truly wanting to stop. He sometimes says he wants to stop–but then sometimes says he’s only telling me what I want to hear so I’ll shut up. This after asking a simple question, not badgering him.

    My kids are starting to show the effects of living with him. We never know if he’ll keep his word, or if he’ll do anything he says he will, which makes him angry because he says he usually does what he promises–nope.

    Years ago, before we had kids, I attended Al-Anon for a few months. I fully admit that I didn’t even consider it was a disease until then. But hearing that it wasn’t voluntary, for some reason, made me really, really angry. Now, eleven years later, I’m still struggling with the First Step. Why can’t he just choose to have a glass of water, instead of swilling beer as fast as he can?

    He DOES choose on the days he decides to go to work. He’ll stop sometime the day before and be nice, cheerful, intelligent and sort of happy (if he’s not hung-over sick) the day he works. But 99% of the time when he could do anything with our family he drinks instead.

    Now I’m worried about my kids. My daughter, 10, is really depressed, angry, disrespectful, and has said she hates her father and will never love him. He doesn’t hit her, but sometimes calls her stupid and acts like he wishes she weren’t here. I try to mitigate that by telling her it’s not true. But reading the symptoms of children of alcoholics, I saw her in there.

    So, I’ve made the decision to introduce her to Alateen and I am going to start using the Al-Anon materials here online. I’m just afraid because he’ll get mad if he finds out. He doesn’t think he has a problem and thinks I’m trying to turn the kids against him by telling them he does. He can’t even tell that everyone already knows.

  17. suzanne June 2009 at 12:11 am

    My husband has a drinking problem. He admits it, but he hasn’t made any effort to stop drinking. When he doesn’t drink, he is really great to be around. He says it’s hereditary from his father. Is that true? I really want to get some answers, because it’s really tearing my family apart.

    My 11-year-old hates his dad when he drinks. When he doesn’t, he really likes to be around his dad. I really want to get some help for our son and me. We need to learn to help his dad to stop drinking. He has an older son also, and he drinks just like his dad. His dad makes an excuse for him, saying he has to deal with a lot, being over in Iraq. I think that’s just an excuse! If he really wants to stop, he can. I am really angry over the drinking and what it is doing to our lives. I want the cycle to stop.

  18. Guiomar June 2009 at 11:42 am

    I don’t know where to start. My husband says he has been clean for eight months, but I still can’t stand him.

    I found out he was a heroin addict just after I had my son. I knew he was addicted to pain meds before. I didn’t know what addiction was. I thought that going once to detox and rehab would get rid of it, sort of like the flu. How naive I was! How stupid! Anyway, we have a beautiful, smart, healthy boy.

    My husband wants to come back home, but I don’t want him to. He tells me that my son is going to be like him if I don’t let him, but I think he’s just trying to manipulate me. I let him see our son a lot, but I just don’t want him back. He sends me crazy text messages and gets me so angry sometimes. His desease put us in horrible hardship. He left all kinds of disgusting paraphernalia related to that disgusting drug all over the condo—needles, blood, all kinds of gross stuff. He spent hundreds of thousands on his sick habit and almost died many times. Just thinking about it makes me sick.

    Anyway, I think he’s better now. He gained tons of weight. He’s been working, etc. I still can’t stand him. I don’t trust him. I have never been to an Al-Anon meeting before. He begs me to go, but the fact that he asks me to do it makes me not do it. Maybe I’m a little sick too. Anyway, I just wish he would go away so I don’t have to deal with his selfish , whining attitude ever again.

  19. ann May 2009 at 9:57 am

    Hello. My name is Ann.

    I married an alcoholic in 1972. Many times in the middle of the night I feared for my life. I was 20 years old when we had our baby, Ryan. Often when my husband came home from drinking, if he could not get a reaction from me he would go to Ryan’s room and wake up our son. One night I caught him throwing him in the air like a football. I flipped out. Now I know it was the wrong thing to do. Finally I got the baby in my arms and left the house with nothing, just in panic, and ran to a friend’s house for the night. The next morning my husband remembered nothing. This went on for 8 years.

    Unfortunately, I went into insomia-induced psychosis and ended up in the hospital where I stayed for 3 months. I hardly thought of my son or home life, I was so heavily medicated. I thought to myself that I liked being at the hospital more than at home. I felt safe. They told me that I would have to go to a mental institution if I did not get well. Something snapped and I started to ask about my son, went home on weekends, and slowly got my dysfuncional life back. I was so depressed I had to learn how to cook and have a conversation. I was so depressed, I went from crying myself to sleep to not being able to sleep. That’s what got me into the hospital, not sleeping for 3 nights. I planned for a year to leave my husband. Then when my son turned 6, I left my abusive husband and went to work full-time as my son was in school full-time.

    I am now in Al-Anon. My son is 5 months clean in A.A. and we finally have our lives on track. Thank God for the 12 Step spiritual programme that we both live by. I still struggle, but I am with loving people who understand me and care. I have learned to love myself and am out of shame that was not mine to begin with.

    I now detach from unhealthy relationships, sending out health, happiness, and prosperity to others who are not loving to themselves or to me. That one came from my sponsor. I am on Step Two and a grateful member of Al-Anon.

  20. Mom crying May 2009 at 6:10 pm

    I am crying as I read this. My daughter has a 6-week-old beautiful baby girl. She is 28 years old. The baby’s father is 31 and an admitted alcoholic – not getting help. He recently got drunk while caring for the baby while my daughter went to dinner & a show w/ girlfriends. I have given both of them information on AA and Al-Anon but there does not seem to be any initiative on their part to contact you all. Maybe they will – hopefully soon.
    Mom crying

  21. Bengie April 2009 at 10:37 am

    Yes. Living with active alcoholism in our home, we all learned behaviours to cope. My husband and I have been in recovery (AA/Al-Anon) for about 15 years. Our four children have suffered the effects of this disease. Two of my young adult children have gone through rehab with one continuing to work at his recovery.

    Allowing my children to go through their own life experiences and accept their choices, can be a very hard thing to do. My son deals with his addiction and mental illness the best he can. I remind myself that one day at a time, with my higher power, my sponsor, and the help of the group program, I derive strength.

    When I first came to Al-Anon, my goal was to break this cycle. I felt if I worked hard enough at my program and my husband did the same, we could change things in our family. I did not want our children to go through what we had. There have been so many changes. Today I remind myself that life is about the journey, not the destination. A wonderful journey of surprises, even amongst some chaos. Al-Anon has helped me in many ways. Serenity, sponsors, meetings, and the changes in my behaviours have allowed me to be an example for my children. To be able to deal with situations, people, and places in a healthy way is pretty awesome too.

    Just keep coming back!

  22. Frances April 2009 at 8:50 am

    Yes, I want to tell Chelle that I have experienced the same with my son. I almost had a stroke at the time I was coming off Adivan and anti-anxiety medication and was calling a phone number my son had as he told me he was addicted to crack cocaine. I called this number and told them on the phone that my son had this terrible problem and he needed their help. As I contined to talk to them, I said, “Hey, wait a minute. I need help here.” I have an addiction, also, to anti-anxiety medication that I was abusing. I went off my medication (cold turkey) and would not recommend this to any human being. I almost had a siezure and heart attack and stroke, all in one. Any way, I started at daytox.

    My son continued to use, but I did give him a choice that he could only stay with me clean–no using, and I tried to help him as much as I could. I had met other parents who lost their only son, so I tried to support mine as much as possible and basically went with him where he went, other than to work of course, in hopes that even one word I said might help him keep from getting high that day.

    Well, this went on for 3 years with him in and out of treatment, and he quit 3 great jobs that other people would die to have. Understand that it’s difficult to work a paid job. and still use. His dad was an alcoholic and I left him when my son was 6 years old so I could go to work and support us. One day miracles do happen. My son got on his knees and (I know when a man gets on his knees that means serious business) so I listened.

    My kind, loving, gentle son got on his knees to beg me to go to Al-Anon. I have been a grateful member of 5 different groups and try to attend 4-5 times a week. I chaired a meeting for the first time at my home group on Thursday and I am secretary at another group on Wednesday nights.

    I LOVE AL-ANON. I am on Step One and am learning to love myself unconditionally and be gentle and honest with my feelings. Out of denial, finally, and continue to be of grateful service to other members of Al-Anon. Thank you and keep coming back. God Bless!

    Not sure if I did this right, but I feel better now. Thanks.

  23. Cyndi R. April 2009 at 11:03 am

    I used to think that if I did everything right my children would not be affected. Now I know almost four years later that my children now 8 and 11 are affected and it is okay! They have been going to Alateen for over a year and I am glad we have the program in common. Their dad is sober almost four years, but we have been separated for almost three. I trust the program and practice it to the best of my ability. I know there are no quick fixes and I have grown beyond what I could’ve imagined. I am glad I can share with others in this way! THANK YOU!!

  24. Chelle March 2009 at 10:59 am

    My son is 25 and has been in and out of prison since his 18th birthday. I got him to move closer to me so I could try to help him–He is a drug user in denial. Last night he said he was going to come to our home with a gun and shoot himself in front of us if we didn’t let him in and let him spend the night –He had nowhere to go. Everytime he gets a paycheck he disappears until the money is gone. He has a pregnant 18-year-old girlfreind, no place to live, no drivers license, no phone and no money–I worry so much that I had a stroke about 10 days ago. Is there any hope for someone with so many problems? Am I supposed to shut the door, close the blinds, unplug the phone and walk away? Please help. He is my only son. His nephew (Henry) already killed himself–He was 21.

  25. NJo from MA March 2009 at 7:03 pm

    Thank you, Elizabeth. I am so appreciative of being able to share about this podcast. My husband and I had always been honest and open with our children so they knew the reasons their dad was moving out for a while. My son was 11 at the time and my daughter was 9 when their dad first went into treatment. My son, upon hearing his dad had a problem, picked up his Little League bat and attempted to attack his father. Since then my son, who is now 31 and was the most affected, still suffers from bouts of both anger and depression. His relationship with his dad is better. My daughter and her dad used to be extremely close and although they relate, their relationship has changed. Both of our children then began attending meetings with their dad and with me as I began Al-Anon. Although neither of them chose Alateen, they are very aware of their chances to follow in their father’s footsteps. I have been in Al-Anon since 1991, and have never doubted for one moment that I’m in the right place and with the right people. I want to thank every one of ‘my family’ for the opportunity to find out who I am and feel confident with my decisions. I know I am a woman of dignity and grace thanks to Al-Anon.

  26. bev March 2009 at 6:07 pm

    Wow – being as I am an old timer in the program so they say, today is my first time listening to a podcast. Joined Al-Anon in 1970 here it is 2009. Wow what a joy to hear
    someone share outside of Canada.

    One cannot go back and complain or wish that one had podcasts in the 50’s or 60’s but hey it is 2009. Thanks for sharing your recovery in Al-Anon. Wow, it was so great to sit quietly and simply just listen.

    In fact, what a wonderful way to reach out to others by simply informing others to reach out to help themselves at any time of day. Thanks for caring.

  27. Dolores February 2009 at 11:48 pm

    Thank you for the ability to hear words of advice and inspiration. I so desperately needed that feeling I get in meetings tonight. That feeling of Serenity and being able to breathe. It’s a great reminder for me to work on me and in doing so I am giving my children a priceless gift. Not adding to the destruction alcoholism has caused us. Thank you

  28. Jen February 2009 at 10:10 am

    This was great to hear- I could so relate to her feelings about being able to help/not help her children if she wasn’t/was helping herself. Thank you

  29. krek January 2009 at 8:48 am

    you have inspired me so much and i’m glad to have heard this. thank you!

  30. John B January 2009 at 1:49 am

    Thank you Elizabeth for your honesty and courage in sharing through this pod-cast.

    Your journey of recovery will inspire others and help them find their way into our wonderful fellowship.

    I have heard this message over and over in the rooms, and now the entire world has access to the words of hope.

  31. carlene r January 2009 at 9:25 pm

    Thank you Elizabeth for sharing so much of your experience, strength, and hope. I especially enjoyed hearing how you feel you are now contributing to the well being of your children because of your recovery. This podcast was particularly encouraging to hear.

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