On the new WSO website, al-anon.org, you can find Al‑Anon and Alateen meetings throughout the world, online and on the phone on the “Al‑Anon Meetings” menu.
“Find an Al‑Anon Meeting” and “Find an Alateen Meeting”
- Locate physical Al‑Anon and Alateen meetings within a 100-mile area of your location. The meeting locator provides directions and a view of the actual location!
“Virtual Meetings” are held online and on the phone.
- The Electronic Meeting List includes blog, bulletin board, email and web conferencing Al‑Anon meetings in English.
- The International Virtual Meeting List lists online meetings in languages other than English, French and Spanish. (French and Spanish “virtual” meetings are listed on the French and Spanish websites.)
- Over 100 phone meetings, held in a conference call format in real time, are listed in U.S. Eastern Time.
“Worldwide Al‑Anon Contacts”
- Lists Al‑Anon Information Services and General Service Offices throughout the world.
I am struggling with my alcholic son . It’s so hard I feel I can’t cope sometimes. He has been living with his wife of 11 years but he moved in with me when she had had enough which was about almost two years ago . Since he moved in with me he has spent quite a lot of his time with his wife but every time he had a drink he is back with me . It always everyone else’s fault that he drinks . I very recently lost my mum and my dad who parted when I was young , they died within a month of each other . The week I was to,d that my mother had cancer and was dying I came home for the weekend to find my son had got drunk and took an over dose and was in hospital so I spent one of my so called rest days at the hospital by his bed . I returned to my mum and was very worried about my son . It’s has been and still is very hard . It doesn’t matter what is happening in my life I get him coming to my home drunk . I feel very unhappy and at a loss to know how to deal with all this . I do everything I can for him to no avail . I asked him not to come when he is drunk but he comes and argues that he hasn’t had a drink he tell lies constantly . He is normally a really nice person but drink totally changes his personality. He has had help tablets etc but he is getting worse he used to go weeks without a drink nut now it’s a couple of weeks each time he gets paid infact . He always says I am not going to drink any more but it doesn’t last . I know it’s very hard . He won’t consider AA at all . I realise I need help to deal with all this .
I’m feeling so alone my boyfriend has a drinking problem that he can’t control and I feel like I’m losing myself in this relationship cause I’m always stressing about him and we have a son together and I don’t want to have my son grow up in a broken family… don’t know what to do anymore.
I wanted to add that working the 12 Steps, especially Step Four helped me to really ‘know’ me. I would encourage anyone to really work the steps. Understanding who I was gave me the self esteem needed to love and respect others for who they are…. it helped me to realize I was expecting others to fulfill my shortcomings. I grew with the dysfunction of excessive drinking and the chaos that brings as a child, which shaped me into who I was, and I took all of that into a marriage creating further dysfunction with control issues, victim and martyr issues. Doing Step Four helped me to understand my own issues and helped me to understand how to separate my issues from another person’s.
9+ years ago my husband chose recovery in AA and I also chose Al-Aron recovery. The tools I acquired through this Programme and through the open AA meetings have been amazing for the quality of life I now enjoy. Life still has its challenges but today I can live in serenity in spite of any chaos or challenges I may experience, and when I make unhealthy choices I have a group of Al-Anon members, whose experience, strength and hope, keep me grounded. I try to live each day, one at a time, and give to my Higher Power all that I know I have no control over. The Serenity Prayer has been an amazing tool and focusing on gratitude helps me more than I can truly explain.
I am traveling with my sober husband across Colorado, New Mexico onto WI. We are both in anonymous programs. I sometimes feel that l need the familiarity of “my people” to converse with and laugh!!! Not that my husband and l don’t have that, but u know it’s different…I’ve been in al-anon on the 16th of Sept. for 35 yrs. and I’m here for a lifetime!! I love al-anon and the members in it, no matter where l go. I am heading to Texas where we will see my daughter and her family. She just started al-anon, her husband drinks daily, and l will be going to a meeting w/her when I’m there. BUT…l understand she got very intoxicated while in AZ two weeks ago. I’m a little sad but l know that there is nothing I can do other than love her and stay out of her business.
It hurts but I also am aware if she’s a double winner, she has her HP to turn to. It helps just voicing what I am going thru and what feelings I’m experiencing. It doesn’t matter how long I’m in program sometimes it feels so new! Thank u for letting me share.
I am looking for help because my boyfriend and best friends are addicts. I was an addict but have been sober and have found it easier to stay sober because I wasn’t an addict for as long as they have been. They keep relapsing and I don’t know what to do. I try to talk to my boyfriend about it but he gets belligerent which is not like him. Normally he is extremely loving and doting but when he is high or coming down or when we talk about how he shouldn’t be getting high he becomes a different person. I find it very hard to love this person. I want to help him so bad but I know he doesn’t want my help when he is in the self denial state. When he is rational he tells me not to let him take drugs amymore, but how can this all be on me to control? I don’t know if I can handle this anymore.
My 18 yr old daughter and my 23 year old son both are addicts/alcoholics. They are my anchors holding me under water drowning me.
My partner is apparently seeking advice and help for her serious alcohol dependency but seems to be getting worse.
I (we) have two young children whose lives are being destroyed by their mothers aggressive addiction and obvious blame on everyone but herself.
I can’t leave her in charge of my children but at the same time cannot continue to live with her.
Backed into a corner and ashamed to ask any of my friends for advice and I don’t want to lose my children ………I’m facing a wall
Thank you for Sharing
[At an Al-Anon meeting] you will meet so many people who know exactly where you are and learn there are choices and ways you can help.
I am the mom of 21 year old daughter who is an alcoholic. I can’t help her anymore. I’ve tried.
I need help. My husband’s drinking problem is so bad the whole family is scared of him. He turns evil and belligerent. Says hateful things. He says he can’t stop drinking and won’t get help. It’s everyone’s fault but his own. I cannot live. It’s like we are living under a tyrant.
The first thing I learned in Al-Anon was to help myself, because if I am not anchored to my Higher Power, I can’t help anyone.
I am a long time member of the Al-Anon Family Group – I learned in Al-Anon a long time ago that I could not help my children who were out there drinking and getting in trouble – in trying I got sick – physically – mentally and spiritually.
My suggestion is try Al-Anon, the members in the rooms have been through exactly what you are going through.. We have a lot of literature that has helped me and many others through the years – someone will tell your story – we will never be alone again in the rooms of Al-Anon.
Jeanne
Focusing on ourselves was and is one of the hardest things to do. Prayer and meditation was and is a great help for me. God Bless You…”keep Coming Back”. I know of no other organization where you can find support and help around the world, than with Al-Anon.
I am looking for help my daughter because my daughter is drinking too much. She is putting stress in the household.