Concept Two
The Al‑Anon Family Groups have delegated complete administrative and operational authority to their Conference and its service arms.
Please share your experience, strength, and hope as it relates to Concept 2. The opinions expressed here are strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you liked and leave the rest. Member sharing on the Member Blog may be used in future Al‑Anon publications.
Concept Two addresses one of the greatest hurdle I had in my recovery: “trusting others”. It was difficult for me to delegate tasks to others as I didn’t trust that they could do what was required and, most of all, that they would not to it correctly or as I would like it to be done. I was not good with dialogues either. I had many stumbling blocks and no stepping stones!! When I got into service, I realised that Concept Two was a tool used to better serve our fellowship. I slowly learned that dialogue was a two-way street… Read more »
Concept Two that talks about delegating rubbed me the wrong way when I first came to the program. To me delegating meant that I had to trust others and this was scary for me. My trust had been tested many times in my life and, it was a very low point when I came to the fellowship. Delegating meant that I had to give to somebody else part of the job, that I considered being responsible for. To do so, I had to trust. I had my doubts as to the potential of other people to do the job well… Read more »
I have the kind of job where I can do an infinite amount of work and it still won’t feel like I made a dent. The only option is progress, not perfection. And yet sometimes my perfectionism still wins the day and I end up feeling like I’ve failed because I didn’t complete everything on my to do list. Concept Two is a helpful, practical measure for me, because it talks about delegating tasks. Whenever I feel bad about not getting enough done, I don’t have to bear the “blame” alone. My higher power is also responsible, for everything I… Read more »
I currently have an expanded definition of “delegating.” I am healing from an injury, and unable to perform many household tasks. When people assist me with my daily living, or when I ask for help, I am – in a sense, delegating responsibilities (authority) to them. This means I don’t criticize or evaluate their techniques and methods. The results are likely going to be very much the same – if the dishes are put away in the wrong place, so be it. Perhaps their way makes more sense than mine, and we’ve found a better place to put the plates.… Read more »
With Concept Two, I am learning about delegating and being accountable. Prior to coming to Al-Anon, and even after my coming to the program, I had a false sense of those two very important principles of our fellowship. I thought that somehow I detained the truth, therefore there was no need to delegate or be accountable. After a while of listening, learning and recovering, I realized that I was completely off track. I knew that I couldn’t continue this way of being if I wanted to live in harmony with the members of my family, my fellow members or any… Read more »
Concept Two talks about delegating, sharing responsibilities and assuming accountability,when a task has to be done. I must say that delegating was not on my radar, when I came to Al-Anon. Prior to understanding the benefits of this Concept,I made sure everything was up to par and under control, me being the only person responsible for everything. With time, the gift of delegating became clear , when I understood that giving the chance to others to share a task, without my interfering, was alright and even better. I had trust issues and I had to learn to trust that others… Read more »