Ellen, Joe, and Sharon, all active Al-Anon members are with us today to talk about how Al-Anon helped them deal with their children’s drinking.
“First Steps to Al-Anon Recovery” from Al-Anon Family Groups is a series of podcasts to discuss some common concerns for people who have been affected by someone else’s drinking.
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Amazing, my daughter an alcoholic. Her dad was but I left him when she 3 years old. So she has the gene for it. I experienced the alcoholic rage from her on Thanksgiving. I’m still in shock. It was abusive the way she talked. Her eldest kept saying, mama shut up. I’ve been to Al-Anon years ago. I’m not able to cope with her, she’s too painful to be around. I’ve had health issues and not a bright idea to be around that. I never see my granddaughters. We were close. Now it’s like my daughter, nothing I do is… Read more »
My 45-year-old daughter is an alcoholic. My husband is a son of alcoholic parents (who enables my 45-year-old daughter). She is difficult to be around and is constantly causing a lot of problems for herself, between us, and her brothers and sister. I will try to start attending these meetings because this is destroying my life and I don’t know how to deal with this.
My 33 yr old son is an alcoholic. He is living with us right now while waiting to get into an apartment. He was doing good for a week but I came home today and he was drunk. I don’t know how to help him.
I am mother to an adult alcoholic he is 29 almost 30. Let me start by saying I have never in my life directly dealt with an alcoholic before. My son is functional at this point, I mean he goes to work everyday, and then he comes home and gets plastered i have my husband, and I have a 20 yr. Old son, 15 yr old son and 13 yr. Old daughter that live in our very small 2 bedroom. Anyway, his daily drinking has gotten to a point to where his younger siblings can’t stand him, our household is… Read more »
My 24 year old daughter is an alcoholic. I can no longer allow her to live in my home. She becomes aggressive, and lies constantly.
My handsome once bright eyed son. My son is 33 and has been battling addiction with alcohol for 10+ years. He also struggles with anxiety and depression of course. He had been hospitalized multiple times with pancreatitis, once for 11 days. He lost his home, his jobs and friends and family is now pushing away. He went to live with his enabling father who bless his heart did what he had to and thought he could live with himself. Then his father became an alcoholic and it was a toxic relationship. Well, God rest his soul his father just passed… Read more »
My daughter finally told me what she was taking that made her dysfunctional. I should have known. She’s been lying to me for years. After coming clean, she lied to me when I asked her if her room was REALLY empty of alcohol. I asked her twice. Each time she assured me there were no bottles in her room.
My son is an alcoholic. He is married and has 3 wonderful children. I feel his wife has adopted the ‘can’t beat them join them” attitude as now she is drinking a lot as well. They leave their kids at home with the oldest (12). We have had sit down conversations and things change briefly but always back to the same routine. He is constantly with a drink in his hand although I’m not sure it is always alcohol, as he carries a Yeti cup nearly everywhere. I’ve seen the amount of vodka he pours into the cup and it… Read more »
My 29 year old daughter drinks too much. When I am with her (3 or 4 times a year), she gets inebriated – she says it is because she is celebrating. She is self employed and her job is going well. She takes care of herself. I worry that she might be facing a drinking problem (her dad was an alcoholic). When I try to talk about it, she yells at me that I am being overly sensitive to it. But I think a whole bottle of wine by herself every night and maybe one or two shots on top… Read more »
My adult son is an alcoholic. I have a minor child in my house. Recently divorced from an enabling ex husband.
I am at my wits end, my daughter has a serious problem with alcohol and will not acknowledge she has a problem.
My adult son is an alcoholic.
My 19 year old alcoholic son comes home from his 6 week rehab next week. My husband and I are terrified that the hell we’ve been going through the last 4 years is going to start all over again. This is his 2nd time. First time was for drugs, this time for alcohol. If he doesn’t want to follow our rules we will have to kick him out. My counselor says it’s what will HAVE to happen. I’m so scared. The last 6 weeks have been the most peaceful, relaxed and stress free weeks we’ve had in at least two… Read more »
My 33 year old daughter has been in and out of AA since 20 years old. May 24, 2017 she stopped drinking. She met someone in June of 2018 and not knowing that he hid a drinking problem as well as a family of drinkers, they got engaged quickly. I didn’t see the signs. Fast forward to just 2 weeks before her 2 year sober anniversary she drank. She came to me and told me. My heart is breaking because he has become an enabling factor in her life. She is in detox in FL as I type. She’s supposed… Read more »
My daughter is 46 suppose to have a fairly large wedding at the end of this month right now she is in a hotel drunk she won’t open the door they are going to call the police her father and fiancé are there..HELP where can I take her we live in Huntley She’s a alcoholic has been in rehab,prison for driving on a revoked went threw a windshield at 20 just to much to write here. I need help, what should I do should I take her to the hospital or can I take her to rehab she has state… Read more »
My beautiful 22 year daughter is a alcoholic. She finished her degree last year with a 2.1 in sociology. She lives with me as she feels she cannot cope if she moves out. I would love her to move into her own place as I think she needs this.
She has started a 6 week programme but has been told to drink the amount her body tells her to. Is it wrong to tell her to get dressed up and take her to the pub for a little drink to help her feel special and not isolate herself?
Can we not speak to the people who have left messages here please? Surely if we speak to each other, we can at least help each other and support each other, even if we can’t stop our adult children from being dependent on alcohol or similar. Is there an area we can chat to each other? My own heart breaks for my own situation, but my heart breaks too for the lovely innocent people in this thread who are suffering like me, simply by having a substance dependent adult child – it seems hopeless and heartbreaking..! All any parent wants… Read more »
Every one of these stories is heartbreaking. Our mid-twenties son is addicted to weed and now we fear alcohol. Here are some thoughts I’ve had reading people’s comments: Anyone who is a grandparent and is witnessing their grandchildren in danger because of an addict parent should take steps to remove the children from the home. This is imperative. I don’t recommend kicking a son or daughter out of the home, but every situation is different. I haven’t been there so I don’t know what I would do. I’ve heard it works to straighten out some people but they usually go… Read more »
My daughter is 24. She drinks heavily everyday. She recently came back home to live w her father and I. She’s been drinking and using drugs since early high school. Also suffers w depression. Yesterday she had a meltdown. Tried to hurt herself but luckily called her boyfriend and he came and took her to the e.r.. She was unconscious when he found her. They put a legal hold on her and she will be transferred to the mental hospital sometime today or tomorrow. She seems in good spirits today and although she isn’t allowed to have visitors. They let… Read more »
My daughter is 26 and has been addicted to alcohol and weed since the age of 14. Her father is alcohol dependent too and she chose to live with him when our marriage broke up. I have lost count of the number of crisis we have been through with her. Rehab several times and treats it like a holiday, drinks as soon as she gets out. Blames her drinking on a multitude of problems, depression being one but chooses alcohol over medication and help. Mood swings are off the chart, sometimes she won’t let me touch her and other times… Read more »