Al-Anon is Gentle

It is a typical day at the practice. I prepare the materials for the substance abuse support group and open the door for clients. They begin sitting down and talking loudly among themselves. Once everyone signs in, I present the following topic: the impact of parental alcoholism and/or other family members’ problem drinking. The loudness subsides, and nobody can hear a pin drop.
The silence and attentiveness of the group members, here and in the past, have led me to continue talking for the past 17 years about the impact of drinking on family members. Through it all, some clients hold back tears; others cannot. No matter how they express their emotions, I can see the unbearable pain in their eyes.
After giving clients an opportunity to express themselves, I discuss solutions for their problems, especially Al‑Anon with all its helpful components (i.e., Sponsorship, the  Steps, Traditions, Concepts and the Slogans). I share how the fellowship can aid anyone impacted by someone else’s drinking.
Most importantly, I discuss in detail the program’s gentle approach. Talking about Al‑Anon’s gentleness attracts clients who may otherwise be skeptical about seeking help. At the end of my group sessions, a few clients often ask me for a “Where & When” list of Al‑Anon meetings in the area. Their request warms my heart, and I am reassured, time and again, of the importance of sharing Al‑Anon with those coping with alcohol abuse in friends and/or loved ones.
One day at a time, the various program components provide individuals with tools to decrease—and hopefully heal—the unbearable pain caused by someone else’s drinking. Al‑Anon is one of the most valuable resources available for family and friends of problem drinkers.

Dr. Daniella Jackson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Researcher


  1. Rose October 2017 at 11:47 am

    Hi I grew up in an alcoholic home and boy did I think I knew it all. I was so much in denial that I couldn’t see how I had been adversely affected. I came to Al-Anon on my knees, a doormat. I know today how badly affected I was and will always be. However now I have a support system and my life has changed beyond my wildest dreams. No matter what it’s a safe place to talk and listen. I am so very grateful that I found this wonderful programme. I would suggest going to a meeting for six weeks just to see if it’s for you and if not nothing ventured nothing gained.

  2. Julie A. September 2017 at 10:37 pm

    I have an alcoholic mother, my childhood was chaos and my adult life is still showing the consequences. I understand the 12 steps for the alcoholic but I don’t understand the purpose for the child to work the 12 steps. Not criticizing, I am truly curious. I want to start attending meetings I am wondering what that will be like.

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