{"id":6745,"date":"2017-07-24T13:23:49","date_gmt":"2017-07-24T17:23:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/?p=6745\/"},"modified":"2026-05-08T09:34:00","modified_gmt":"2026-05-08T13:34:00","slug":"ouvrir-notre-coeur-transformer-nos-deuils","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/ouvrir-notre-coeur-transformer-nos-deuils\/","title":{"rendered":"Ouvrir notre coeur, transformer nos deuils"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Une maladie faite de deuils<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00ab\u00a0Mon premier mari est mort alcoolique, mais je n\u2019ai pas pleur\u00e9 sa mort autant que j\u2019ai pleur\u00e9 l\u2019\u00e9chec de notre relation, ainsi que mes r\u00eaves d\u2019amour et de bonheur qui, \u201cjusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce que la mort nous s\u00e9pare\u201d, ne s\u2019\u00e9taient pas r\u00e9alis\u00e9s. Pendant des ann\u00e9es, j\u2019ai pleur\u00e9 avec col\u00e8re, avec ressentiment, et des \u201cPourquoi moi ?\u201d, ne comprenant pas que la maladie de l\u2019alcoolisme avait \u00e9t\u00e9 le v\u00e9ritable probl\u00e8me. Cette maladie a mis fin \u00e0 notre relation et \u00e0 la vie de mon mari.\u00a0\u00bb<\/em><\/p>\n

Les cons\u00e9quences de l\u2019alcoolisme impr\u00e8gnent nos relations et peuvent compliquer notre deuil. Nous pleurons pour nous\u2011m\u00eames, pour nos r\u00eaves, et pour notre famille. Si nous avons de jeunes enfants, ils peuvent d\u00e9j\u00e0 subir les cons\u00e9quences d\u2019une enfance dans un foyer alcoolique. M\u00eame si nos enfants ne vivent plus au contact de l\u2019alcoolisme actif, leurs vies continuent d\u2019en \u00eatre affect\u00e9es. Ils peuvent s\u2019isoler, se bl\u00e2mer, avoir des difficult\u00e9s \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9cole, ou agir de mani\u00e8re n\u00e9gative. Nos enfants peuvent \u00e9galement transporter le douloureux fardeau de ce mal familial dans leur vie d\u2019adulte. Ces m\u00eames qualit\u00e9s qui leur ont jadis permis de survivre peuvent causer des difficult\u00e9s dans leurs relations familiales, avec leurs amis, et leurs coll\u00e8gues. Ils ont peut*#8209;\u00eatre du mal \u00e0 prendre des d\u00e9cisions. Ils souffrent peut\u2011\u00eatre de peur et d\u2019anxi\u00e9t\u00e9, et ils ont peut\u2011\u00eatre de la difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 maintenir des relations intimes. Ils \u00e9pousent souvent des alcooliques, ou ils le deviennent eux\u2011m\u00eames.<\/p>\n

La vie quotidienne au contact de l\u2019alcoolisme porte atteinte \u00e0 l\u2019estime de soi. Quand nous arrivons \u00e0 Al\u2011Anon, nous avons parfois l\u2019impression que nous nous sommes perdus. Il est admirable d\u2019\u00eatre pr\u00e9venant et attentif aux besoins des autres, mais pas aux d\u00e9pens de notre propre bien\u2011\u00eatre. Petit \u00e0 petit, nous avons pu n\u00e9gliger nos propres besoins en donnant aux autres tout notre amour, tous nos soins et toute notre attention. Nous ne savons peut\u2011\u00eatre pas tr\u00e8s bien comment nous en sommes arriv\u00e9s l\u00e0.<\/p>\n

\u00ab\u00a0J\u2019ai reconnu que j\u2019avais non seulement perdu le peu de contr\u00f4le que je croyais avoir, mais que je m\u2019\u00e9tais \u00e9galement perdue. Cette d\u00e9pendance \u00e0 laquelle je voulais mettre un terme \u00e9tait nourrie par mon comportement. Al\u2011Anon m\u2019a aid\u00e9 \u00e0 voir le r\u00f4le que je jouais dans le cauchemar que je vivais, et m\u2019a donn\u00e9 les outils pour m\u2019aider \u00e0 me r\u00e9veiller et commencer \u00e0 vivre la vie selon ses propres termes, et non les miens. Aujourd\u2019hui, je peux regarder dans le miroir en sachant que je me r\u00e9approprie ce qui avait \u00e9t\u00e9 perdu\u00a0: moi\u2011m\u00eame.\u00a0\u00bb<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>

Vous voulez en savoir plus? Trouvez-le dans notre magasin<\/span><\/a><\/div>
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