{"id":4612,"date":"2017-04-24T14:22:30","date_gmt":"2017-04-24T19:22:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4612\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T11:54:25","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T15:54:25","slug":"apres-des-annees-de-sevices-et-dalcoolisme-de-son-pere-une-femme-decouvre-enfin-le-retablissement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/apres-des-annees-de-sevices-et-dalcoolisme-de-son-pere-une-femme-decouvre-enfin-le-retablissement\/","title":{"rendered":"Apr\u00e8s des ann\u00e9es de s\u00e9vices et d\u2019alcoolisme de son p\u00e8re, une femme d\u00e9couvre enfin le r\u00e9tablissement"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Lorsque j\u2019\u00e9tais \u00e2g\u00e9e d\u2019\u00e0 peine sept ans, comme beaucoup de petites filles, j\u2019avais l\u2019habitude de danser avec mon p\u00e8re. Je posais mes pieds sur les siens et il me faisait virevolter autour de la salle. Il \u00e9tait grand et mince; tout le monde disait qu\u2019il ressemblait \u00e0 Bing Crosby dans sa jeunesse. Je me rappelle que je voyais le monde du haut de ses \u00e9paules. Je me sentais prot\u00e9g\u00e9e, voire privil\u00e9gi\u00e9e : j\u2019\u00e9tais sa premi\u00e8re fille.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Je me souviens de la fois o\u00f9 mon p\u00e8re m\u2019a appris \u00e0 faire du v\u00e9lo. \u00c9tant gauch\u00e8re, j\u2019\u00e9tais d\u00e9termin\u00e9e \u00e0 p\u00e9daler en arri\u00e8re. Cela causait l\u2019arr\u00eat soudain du v\u00e9lo et \u00e0 chaque fois, je me retrouvais par terre. Mon p\u00e8re m\u2019expliquait alors calmement que m\u00eame s\u2019il me semblait logique de p\u00e9daler en arri\u00e8re, p\u00e9daler en avant m\u2019aiderait \u00e0 avancer.\u00c0 mesure que je grandissais, l\u2019alcool a pris ma place dans la vie de mon p\u00e8re. Mon p\u00e8re avait du mal \u00e0 garder un emploi; il passait la plupart de ses soir\u00e9es au bar du coin. Ma m\u00e8re s\u2019effa\u00e7ait de plus en plus.<\/p>\n

Au fil des ans, notre famille s\u2019est agrandie. En l\u2019espace de dix ans, ma m\u00e8re a eu cinq autres enfants. Nous avons emm\u00e9nag\u00e9 dans une zone urbaine et mon p\u00e8re a trouv\u00e9 un emploi aux services du mat\u00e9riel m\u00e9dical d\u2019un h\u00f4pital. Le peu d\u2019argent qu\u2019il gagnait \u00e9tait d\u00e9pens\u00e9 pour subvenir aux besoins de notre famille grandissante. J\u2019ignore vraiment comment il se d\u00e9brouillait pour trouver l\u2019argent pour se procurer de l\u2019alcool.<\/p>\n

La violence et la d\u00e9ch\u00e9ance morale ont commenc\u00e9 lorsque j\u2019avais environ dix ans. Ma m\u00e8re et mon p\u00e8re en \u00e9taient venus aux mains. Puis il s\u2019en est pris \u00e0 nous, les enfants : les coups, l\u2019humiliation, la servitude, et finalement, les s\u00e9vices sexuels. Mes s\u0153urs et mon fr\u00e8re qui \u00e9tait handicap\u00e9 mental ont souffert le plus. \u00c9tant la plus \u00e2g\u00e9e chez nous (mon fr\u00e8re a\u00een\u00e9 ayant joint l\u2019arm\u00e9e de l\u2019air), j\u2019ai essay\u00e9 du mieux que je pouvais de nous prot\u00e9ger, mon fr\u00e8re, mes s\u0153urs et moi-m\u00eame.<\/p>\n

Mon p\u00e8re nous terrifiait, ma m\u00e8re et moi. La terreur a engendr\u00e9 la haine puis la peur \u00f4 combien pesante! J\u2019ai oubli\u00e9 l\u2019homme qui me faisait virevolter sur ses pieds. Cette peur et cette haine sont rest\u00e9es en moi jusqu\u2019\u00e0 ce que je d\u00e9couvre Al-Anon.<\/p>\n

J\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 souffrir de troubles mentaux. Je me suis fait interner et j\u2019ai \u00e9t\u00e9 trait\u00e9e pour ma d\u00e9pression et mes sympt\u00f4mes de stress post-traumatiques. C\u2019est au cours d\u2019une s\u00e9ance de th\u00e9rapie que j\u2019ai exprim\u00e9 pour la premi\u00e8re fois mes sentiments vis-\u00e0-vis de mon p\u00e8re.<\/p>\n

Le th\u00e9rapeute m\u2019a donn\u00e9 une liste de r\u00e9unions Al-Anon et m\u2019a sugg\u00e9r\u00e9 d\u2019y assister. Au d\u00e9but, j\u2019\u00e9tais bien d\u00e9cid\u00e9e \u00e0 ne pas y aller. Puis mon \u00e9tat \u00e0 commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 empirer et j\u2019ai accept\u00e9 de suivre son conseil. En chemin vers ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union Al-Anon, j\u2019avais tellement peur que je me suis enfonc\u00e9 les ongles dans les jambes!<\/p>\n

Plus j\u2019assistais aux r\u00e9unions, plus j\u2019\u00e9coutais; mais je ne parvenais pas \u00e0 laisser aller cette haine que je transportais en moi depuis si longtemps. Elle faisait partie de mes pens\u00e9es quotidiennes. La femme \u00e0 qui j\u2019avais demand\u00e9 de devenir ma Marraine m\u2019a sugg\u00e9r\u00e9 de me rendre \u00e0 une r\u00e9union ouverte AA. L\u2019id\u00e9e me rendait malade, mais j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de l\u2019\u00e9couter.<\/p>\n

J\u2019ai rencontr\u00e9 des hommes et des femmes dont le r\u00e9tablissement \u00e9tait un parcours difficile. Ces poign\u00e9es de main \u00e9taient le premier contact que je m\u2019\u00e9tais autoris\u00e9 avec une personne qui avait un probl\u00e8me de consommation d\u2019alcool depuis que j\u2019avais d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de quitter le domicile familial. J\u2019\u00e9tais en pr\u00e9sence d\u2019\u00eatres humains qui faisaient l\u2019impossible pour se r\u00e9tablir de l\u2019alcoolisme.<\/p>\n

L\u2019ann\u00e9e de sa mort, j\u2019ai finalement pu revoir mon p\u00e8re comme l\u2019\u00eatre humain qu\u2019il \u00e9tait vraiment.<\/p>\n

Malheureusement, celui-ci n\u2019a pas d\u00e9couvert la r\u00e9habilitation avant son d\u00e9c\u00e8s.<\/p>\n

Pourtant, Al-Anon m\u2019a permis de retrouver la raison, m\u2019a aid\u00e9e \u00e0 r\u00e9tablir le lien avec ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure et m\u2019a lib\u00e9r\u00e9e de la haine que je transportais depuis bien trop longtemps d\u00e9j\u00e0. C\u2019est apr\u00e8s la mort de mon p\u00e8re que j\u2019ai enfin fait la paix avec lui.<\/p>\n

Par Diane B., Illinois<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>

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