{"id":4547,"date":"2017-02-10T13:54:45","date_gmt":"2017-02-10T19:54:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4547\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T13:20:57","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T17:20:57","slug":"je-suis-amelioree-en-tant-que-personne-et-en-tant-que-mere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-suis-amelioree-en-tant-que-personne-et-en-tant-que-mere\/","title":{"rendered":"Je me suis am\u00e9lior\u00e9e en tant que personne et en tant que m\u00e8re"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>J\u2019ai joint Al\u2011Anon pour le bienfait de\u00a0mes enfants. Je voulais rompre le cycle\u00a0de l\u2019alcoolisme afin qu\u2019ils ne grandissent\u00a0pas dans le m\u00eame contexte que moi.\u00a0Maintenant, je sais que je suis \u00e0 Al\u2011Anon\u00a0pour moi, et le r\u00e9tablissement a am\u00e9lior\u00e9\u00a0la relation que j\u2019ai avec mes enfants au\u00a0moment des \u00ab n\u00e9gociations \u00bb. Voici un\u00a0exemple de comment cela fonctionne.<\/p>\n<p>Un matin tr\u00e8s t\u00f4t, j\u2019ai d\u00e9pos\u00e9 mes enfants\u00a0\u00e0 l\u2019arr\u00eat d\u2019autobus et je suis retourn\u00e9e chez\u00a0moi. Ce jour-l\u00e0 \u00e9tait un jour de cong\u00e9 pour\u00a0moi et je me r\u00e9jouissais \u00e0 l\u2019id\u00e9e d\u2019avoir la\u00a0journ\u00e9e enti\u00e8re \u00e0 moi toute seule, sans\u00a0devoir faire de courses en ville (\u00e0 une\u00a0distance de vingt minutes en voiture de\u00a0l\u2019endroit o\u00f9 nous vivons). Avant huit heures\u00a0du matin, le t\u00e9l\u00e9phone a sonn\u00e9. Ma fille\u00a0avait oubli\u00e9 sa clarinette\u2026 Pouvais-je la\u00a0lui amener \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9cole? J\u2019ai imm\u00e9diatement\u00a0r\u00e9agi avec col\u00e8re. Gr\u00e2ce au r\u00e9tablissement,\u00a0je savais que je ne devais pas prendre de d\u00e9cision quand j\u2019\u00e9tais en col\u00e8re. Je lui ai dit\u00a0que j\u2019avais besoin d\u2019un peu de temps et je\u00a0lui laisserais un message avant sa le\u00e7on.<\/p>\n<p>Je me suis allong\u00e9e sur mon lit et j\u2019ai eu\u00a0un acc\u00e8s de col\u00e8re. Apr\u00e8s avoir d\u00e9pens\u00e9\u00a0mon \u00e9nergie en exprimant ma col\u00e8re, j\u2019ai\u00a0demand\u00e9 \u00e0 Dieu de me montrer mon r\u00f4le\u00a0dans cette situation. J\u2019ai alors r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que\u00a0ma fille n\u2019avait pas besoin de se rappeler de\u00a0prendre sa clarinette parce que je le faisais\u00a0pour elle. J\u2019avais m\u00e9moris\u00e9 son programme\u00a0musical et, les jours o\u00f9 elle avait son cours,\u00a0je prenais son instrument et son livre de\u00a0musique et je les lui donnais quand elle\u00a0\u00e9tait sur le point de partir. J\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que si\u00a0je prends le temps d\u2019accepter mes \u00e9motions,\u00a0je ressens la volont\u00e9 de prier.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ai appel\u00e9 une amie Al\u2011Anon; je lui\u00a0ai parl\u00e9 de ma tendance \u00e0 prendre soin\u00a0des autres et que je pensais qu\u2019apporter\u00a0la clarinette \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9cole de ma fille serait\u00a0une fa\u00e7on de commencer mes amendes\u00a0honorables. Elle \u00e9tait d\u2019accord avec\u00a0moi, mais a fait une suggestion qui m\u2019a\u00a0vraiment \u00e9tonn\u00e9e : \u00ab Fais ce qui te fait\u00a0plaisir quand tu vas en ville. Peut-\u00eatre\u00a0une tasse sp\u00e9ciale de th\u00e9 ou quelque chose\u00a0d\u2019autre. \u00bb Avec cette id\u00e9e qui faisait partie\u00a0de mon plan, aller en ville n\u2019\u00e9tait plus une\u00a0punition que je m\u2019imposais, une perte\u00a0de temps, ou un gaspillage d\u2019essence.\u00a0Les amendes honorables que je me faisais\u00a0\u00e0 moi-m\u00eame pour ma tendance \u00e0 toujours\u00a0prendre soin des autres voulaient que je\u00a0prenne un peu soin de moi-m\u00eame!<\/p>\n<p>Cet apr\u00e8s-midi-l\u00e0, je me suis excus\u00e9e\u00a0aupr\u00e8s de ma fille de lui avoir r\u00e9pondu avec\u00a0col\u00e8re et d\u2019avoir assum\u00e9 la responsabilit\u00e9\u00a0de son instrument. Je lui ai dit que j\u2019avais\u00a0l\u2019intention de cesser de m\u2019ing\u00e9rer, \u00e0 quoi\u00a0elle m\u2019a r\u00e9pondu en souriant : \u00ab Maman, tu\u00a0n\u2019es pas la seule \u00e0 avoir fait une erreur. J\u2019ai\u00a0vu ma clarinette ce matin et je me suis dit : \u00a0\u00bb\u00a0Il faut que je n\u2019oublie pas de la prendre\u00a0aujourd\u2019hui\u00a0\u00bb&#8230;et puis je l\u2019ai oubli\u00e9e.\u00a0Je suis vraiment d\u00e9sol\u00e9e. Merci de me\u00a0l\u2019avoir apport\u00e9e \u00bb.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">Par Becky, Minnesota<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum<\/em>, f\u00e9vrier\u00a02017<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4547","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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