{"id":4454,"date":"2016-10-28T16:54:29","date_gmt":"2016-10-28T21:54:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4454\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T13:29:27","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T17:29:27","slug":"jai-fait-attention-aux-similarites-non-aux-differences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/jai-fait-attention-aux-similarites-non-aux-differences\/","title":{"rendered":"J\u2019ai fait attention aux similarit\u00e9s, non aux diff\u00e9rences"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Un de mes amis dit qu\u2019il devrait y avoir un hologramme sur le visage de tous les membres Al\u2011Anon chaque fois qu\u2019un nouveau vient \u00e0 une r\u00e9union. L\u2019hologramme serait l\u2019image de chaque membre tel qu\u2019il ou elle \u00e9tait \u00e0 sa premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union. Le mien montrerait l\u2019image d\u2019une personne n\u00e9glig\u00e9e et totalement paniqu\u00e9e, probablement avec les bras crois\u00e9s pour garder ses distances avec les autres. Je pense que l\u2019hologramme pourrait r\u00e9conforter les nouveaux venus et leur faire savoir que nous avons tous \u00e9t\u00e9 dans la m\u00eame situation.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019\u00e9tais vraiment en col\u00e8re, j\u2019avais peur et j\u2019\u00e9tais d\u00e9concert\u00e9e. Je ne me rappelle pas \u00eatre venue dans le but de d\u00e9couvrir comment rendre l\u2019alcoolique sobre, parce que j\u2019avais tout essay\u00e9. Un voisin avait sugg\u00e9r\u00e9 que le programme pourrait m\u2019aider, parce que je craignais que le chaos que je remarquais dans ma famille puisse devenir contagieux. Je ne voulais pas faire partie de ce groupe, je n\u2019avais aucune intention de \u00ab\u00a0revenir\u00a0\u00bb, alors j\u2019ai recherch\u00e9 les diff\u00e9rences qu\u2019il y avait dans les t\u00e9moignages. Il \u00e9tait affect\u00e9 par la consommation d\u2019alcool de ses parents, elle par un fils, et vous par votre fille. Il y avait plusieurs personnes dont la consommation d\u2019alcool me d\u00e9rangeait, mais votre situation \u00e9tait diff\u00e9rente; vous \u00e9tiez diff\u00e9rents. Je ne me sentais pas incluse dans le groupe, et pour \u00eatre honn\u00eate, je ne pense pas avoir entendu une seule chose \u00e0 ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union que je n\u2019ai pas fait passer par le filtre du \u00ab\u00a0Moi, je ne suis pas comme cela!\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Je suis retourn\u00e9e voir mon voisin, et il m\u2019a dit de faire attention aux similitudes. Il m\u2019a encourag\u00e9e \u00e0 essayer de nouveau. Je suis retourn\u00e9e \u00e0 la r\u00e9union et les miracles ont commenc\u00e9. J\u2019ai entendu des sentiments exprimer leurs sentiments et ceux-ci \u00e9taient <em>mes<\/em> sentiments. \u00c0 ma deuxi\u00e8me r\u00e9union, j\u2019ai conclu que vous aviez lu mon courrier\u2026 n\u00e9anmoins, je ne voulais toujours pas faire partie du groupe. J\u2019\u00e9tais encore de la col\u00e8re, j\u2019avais peur, et j\u2019\u00e9tais d\u00e9concert\u00e9e, mais un nouveau sentiment s\u2019\u00e9tait manifest\u00e9 ce jour-l\u00e0\u00a0: l\u2019espoir. J\u2019ai d\u00e9couvert que l\u2019espoir \u00e9tait tout au fond de ma bo\u00eete de Pandore en ce qui avait trait \u00e0 mes sentiments.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ai continu\u00e9 \u00e0 \u00ab\u00a0revenir\u00a0\u00bb et cela m\u2019a permis d\u2019identifier d\u2019autres sentiments que la col\u00e8re, la peur et la confusion. J\u2019ai pu en parler avec d\u2019autres membres et j\u2019ai pu m\u2019en d\u00e9barrasser. Pour moi, les t\u00e9moignages \u00e9taient (et demeurent) peut-\u00eatre l\u2019outil le plus puissant du programme Al\u2011Anon. L\u2019id\u00e9e que je me faisais d\u2019une Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure pouvait \u00eatre meilleure. \u00c9couter les membres donner leur t\u00e9moignage m\u2019a donn\u00e9 une id\u00e9e de l\u00e0 o\u00f9 je devais ajuster ma compr\u00e9hension, et j\u2019ai pu entendre ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure \u00e0 travers leurs mots.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ai continu\u00e9 \u00e0 \u00ab\u00a0revenir\u00a0\u00bb et cela m\u2019a permis de construire des relations \u00e9quilibr\u00e9es, de fixer des limites, et d\u2019offrir un amour inconditionnel. J\u2019ai appris tout cela. J\u2019ai pers\u00e9v\u00e9r\u00e9 et j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 redonner ce qui m\u2019avait \u00e9t\u00e9 offert gratuitement et ouvertement. C\u2019est en redonnant ce que j\u2019avais re\u00e7u que j\u2019ai appris ce qu\u2019est le programme\u2026 J\u2019ai vraiment appris! Merci de me permettre de gu\u00e9rir.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Claudia M., Arizona<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, octobre 2016<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[220,225],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4454","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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