{"id":4441,"date":"2016-09-28T16:01:29","date_gmt":"2016-09-28T21:01:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4441\/"},"modified":"2020-07-20T16:50:30","modified_gmt":"2020-07-20T20:50:30","slug":"je-suis-pardonnee-pour-mes-deficiences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-suis-pardonnee-pour-mes-deficiences\/","title":{"rendered":"Je me suis pardonn\u00e9e pour mes d\u00e9ficiences"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Enfant, j\u2019avais toujours le sentiment d\u2019\u00eatre incapable de faire quoi que ce soit correctement. Mon p\u00e8re \u00e9tait impatient et aimait critiquer. Je m\u2019\u00e9tais dit\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0Quand je serai grande, je saurai quoi faire!\u00a0\u00bb Les comp\u00e9tences parentales de mon p\u00e8re consistaient \u00e0 critiquer tout ce que je faisais incorrectement, mais \u00e0 ignorer les choses que je faisais correctement. Je crois qu\u2019il pensait vraiment qu\u2019il m\u2019aidait \u00e0 devenir meilleure. Bien s\u00fbr, je ne faisais rien comme il le voulait, mais cela ne m\u2019a pas emp\u00each\u00e9 d\u2019essayer. Rechercher l\u2019approbation de mon p\u00e8re demandait trop d\u2019effort pour moi. Cette d\u00e9termination s\u2019est manifest\u00e9e dans mon r\u00f4le de conjointe, de m\u00e8re et d\u2019employ\u00e9e.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 mes d\u00e9buts dans Al-Anon, j\u2019ai entendu de nombreux slogans et expressions\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0Se h\u00e2ter lentement\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0L\u00e2cher prise et s\u2019en remettre \u00e0 Dieu\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0Le progr\u00e8s, non la perfection\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0Les attentes sont des ressentiments en devenir\u00a0\u00bb et \u00ab\u00a0Commencez par mettre votre propre masque \u00e0 oxyg\u00e8ne!\u00a0\u00bb Ces maximes \u00e9taient intrigantes, mais je savais qu\u2019il devait y avoir une meilleure fa\u00e7on de vivre; alors, j\u2019ai gard\u00e9 l\u2019esprit ouvert, j\u2019ai \u00e9cout\u00e9 lors des r\u00e9unions, j\u2019ai lu la Documentation Approuv\u00e9e par la Conf\u00e9rence et je me suis finalement trouv\u00e9 une Marraine.<\/p>\n<p>Une fois que je me suis aper\u00e7u que j\u2019attendais trop de moi-m\u00eame, je me suis d\u00e9tendue, j\u2019ai jet\u00e9 mes listes, et je suis devenue moins exigeante. J\u2019ai renonc\u00e9 \u00e0 mes efforts de perfection. Mon changement d\u2019attitude m\u2019a permis de me pardonner moi-m\u00eame pour mes lacunes. Ce faisant, il m\u2019est devenu plus facile de l\u00e2cher prise sur ce que j\u2019attendais d\u2019autrui. Je suis d\u00e9sormais capable de leur pardonner pour leur humanit\u00e9. Ce fut un soulagement de pouvoir commencer \u00e0 faire des choix diff\u00e9rents dans ma vie.<\/p>\n<p>Gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 cette r\u00e9action en cha\u00eene, j\u2019ai trouv\u00e9 la s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9 et ma tranquillit\u00e9 d\u2019esprit et mon sentiment de contentement ont continu\u00e9 s\u2019accro\u00eetre. Ma foi dans le programme Al\u2011Anon a \u00e9galement augment\u00e9 et j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 comprendre que mes anciennes maximes, telles que \u00ab\u00a0l\u00e0 o\u00f9 il y a une volont\u00e9, il y a un chemin\u00a0\u00bb, n\u2019\u00e9taient plus valides pour moi. J\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que nous avions chacun (moi et les autres) notre propre Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure \u2013 et ce n\u2019est pas moi! Ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure s\u2019est tout d\u2019abord manifest\u00e9e sous la forme d\u2019Al\u2011Anon, et maintenant Elle est devenue quelque chose de plus grand. \u00ab\u00a0Revenez!\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Shelley H., Pennsylvanie<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, septembre 2016<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4441","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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