{"id":4439,"date":"2016-06-28T15:55:25","date_gmt":"2016-06-28T20:55:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/al-anon.idevdesign.net\/?p=4439\/"},"modified":"2017-07-27T13:38:14","modified_gmt":"2017-07-27T17:38:14","slug":"aujourdhui-je-sais-ce-quest-lamour-inconditionnel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/aujourdhui-je-sais-ce-quest-lamour-inconditionnel\/","title":{"rendered":"Aujourd\u2019hui, je sais ce qu\u2019est l\u2019amour inconditionnel"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>J\u2019ai grandi en ignorant la diff\u00e9rence entre la honte et la culpabilit\u00e9. La honte me disait que j\u2019\u00e9tais fondamentalement indigne, insuffisant, et que je n\u2019\u00e9tais pas digne d\u2019\u00eatre aim\u00e9 : en bref \u00ab\u00a0il n\u2019y avait rien de bon en moi\u00a0\u00bb. La culpabilit\u00e9 est ce que je ressens quand je fais des choix qui perturbent l\u2019harmonie entre moi, ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure, les autres, et l\u2019univers.<\/p>\n<p>Ma honte venait des violences physiques et psychologiques que j\u2019avais subies dans l\u2019enfance, un manque de validation et de soutien au foyer, et une pratique religieuse ax\u00e9e sur les r\u00e8gles qui semblaient insinuer que j\u2019avais le potentiel d\u2019\u00eatre accidentellement damn\u00e9. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 11\u00a0ans, j\u2019ai \u00e9galement d\u00e9couvert que j\u2019\u00e9tais homosexuel. Je pensais que c\u2019\u00e9tait une chose qui m\u2019\u00e9tait horriblement unique et faisait donc de moi un \u00eatre humain inapte. Les sentiments de honte et de culpabilit\u00e9 rendaient ma vie horriblement difficile. Comme je me consid\u00e9rais comme une personne \u00ab\u00a0mauvaise\u00a0\u00bb, l\u2019espoir d\u2019\u00eatre une \u00ab\u00a0bonne personne\u00a0\u00bb \u00e9tait difficile \u00e0 envisager.<\/p>\n<p>La honte m\u2019avait d\u00e9rob\u00e9 de l\u2019id\u00e9e que je pouvais \u00eatre aim\u00e9. Je ne pensais pas que je m\u00e9ritais de l\u2019amour, ce qui a fini par avoir un \u00e9norme impact n\u00e9gatif sur ma relation avec ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure. Dieu \u00e9tait un juge f\u00e9roce, non un parent aimant.<\/p>\n<p>Le sentiment de honte que je ressentais signifiait que je ne comprenais pas que l\u2019amour f\u00fbt inconditionnel. Il me semblait que l\u2019amour de Dieu venait avec de nombreuses conditions et de nombreux pi\u00e8ges et qu\u2019on devait le m\u00e9riter. Je pensais que cela \u00e9tait \u00e9galement vrai de l\u2019amour des \u00ab\u00a0hommes\u00a0\u00bb. Cela m\u2019a conduit \u00e0 \u00e9tablir des conditions quant aux personnes que j\u2019aimerais et quand je leur exprimerais mon amour\u2026 des conditions si rigides que j\u2019\u00e9tais incapable d\u2019aimer librement.<\/p>\n<p>Dans les mois que j\u2019ai pass\u00e9s \u00e0 Al-Anon, je ne me suis jamais senti jug\u00e9 par les autres membres. Bien au contraire, les membres m\u2019ont communiqu\u00e9 qu\u2019ils m\u2019aimaient tel que j\u2019\u00e9tais \u2013 y compris avec mes d\u00e9fauts de caract\u00e8re. Les trois premi\u00e8res \u00c9tapes m\u2019enseignent comment faire confiance \u00e0 ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure, aux membres, aux principes Al-Anon et \u00e0 l\u2019univers.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ai appris que ma Puissance Sup\u00e9rieure est l\u00e0 pour <em>m\u2019aider<\/em> dans ma croissance, m\u2019aider \u00e0 changer, \u00e0 me relever quand je tr\u00e9buche ou tombe et pour m\u2019enseigner qu\u2019Elle m\u2019aime inconditionnellement.<\/p>\n<p>M\u00eame si je ne demeure \u00ab\u00a0une \u0153uvre inachev\u00e9e\u00a0\u00bb, je trouve assez de s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9 dans le programme Al\u2011Anon pour que l\u2019espoir puisse prendre racine et se d\u00e9velopper. Je commence \u00e0 ressentir une certaine gratitude. J\u2019apprends \u00e0 vivre sans crainte d\u00e9raisonnable. Je commence \u00e0 ressentir de l\u2019amour, et \u00e0 le partager avec les autres.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Joe M., Kentucky<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, juin 2016<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4439","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.1 - 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