{"id":40286,"date":"2023-10-12T14:36:35","date_gmt":"2023-10-12T18:36:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/?p=40286"},"modified":"2023-10-12T14:36:35","modified_gmt":"2023-10-12T18:36:35","slug":"la-premiere-etape-a-ete-la-plus-difficile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/la-premiere-etape-a-ete-la-plus-difficile\/","title":{"rendered":"La Premi\u00e8re \u00c9tape a \u00e9t\u00e9 la plus difficile"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Pour moi, la Premi\u00e8re \u00c9tape selon laquelle \u00ab\u00a0Nous avons admis que nous \u00e9tions impuissants devant l\u2019alcool \u2013 que notre vie \u00e9tait devenue incontr\u00f4lable\u00a0\u00bb a \u00e9t\u00e9 la plus difficile des <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/pour-les-membres\/les-heritages\/les-douze-etapes\/\">douze<\/a><\/strong>. Je pensais que j\u2019avais le contr\u00f4le, et je ne voulais pas admettre que ma vie \u00e9tait incontr\u00f4lable. Je pensais que je pouvais \u00ab\u00a0r\u00e9parer\u00a0\u00bb mon mari; il me suffisait de trouver le morceau manquant du casse-t\u00eate. J\u2019avais entendu parler d\u2019Al\u2011Anon, alors j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 d\u2019assister \u00e0 une r\u00e9union avec l\u2019intention d\u2019obtenir des conseils sur la fa\u00e7on de le \u00ab\u00a0r\u00e9parer\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Je croyais avoir tout essay\u00e9. Je lui ai donn\u00e9 tout l\u2019amour que je pouvais, j\u2019ai tout fait pour lui et j\u2019ai essay\u00e9 de lui rendre la vie parfaite et facile. Bref, j\u2019ai m\u00eame essay\u00e9 de le menacer, en criant, puis en le punissant avec mon silence. Rien n\u2019a fait. C\u2019est de la torture de regarder quelqu\u2019un que vous aimez continuer \u00e0 boire et sombrer encore plus dans sa d\u00e9pendance. J\u2019avais l\u2019impression de le regarder mourir. Je ne me rendais pas compte \u00e0 quel point<em> j\u2019<\/em>\u00e9tais devenue malade.<\/p>\n<p>Apr\u00e8s la premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union, j\u2019ai compris que personne n\u2019allait pouvoir m\u2019aider \u00e0 r\u00e9parer mon mari. Personne ne pouvait me r\u00e9parer non plus, mais j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 que je pouvais au moins essayer de me r\u00e9parer moi-m\u00eame. Je ne savais tout simplement pas comment l\u00e2cher prise. Tous les matins \u00e0 mon r\u00e9veil, je lisais la documentation Al\u2011Anon et j\u2019essayais de mon mieux d\u2019appliquer les \u00c9tapes.<\/p>\n<p>Apr\u00e8s de nombreux mois de r\u00e9unions, la lumi\u00e8re s\u2019est faite\u00a0: si j\u2019avais vraiment eu du contr\u00f4le, comment mon mari aurait-il pu d\u00e9velopper cette maladie? Et si ma vie \u00e9tait aussi contr\u00f4lable que je le pr\u00e9tendais, comment se faisait-il que je passais ma journ\u00e9e \u00e0 m\u2019inqui\u00e9ter et \u00e0 angoisser \u00e0 son sujet? Ce n\u2019\u00e9tait qu\u2019une illusion; je n\u2019avais jamais eu le contr\u00f4le. J\u2019ai ressenti un grand changement ce matin-l\u00e0. Mon corps me semblait plus l\u00e9ger. Je ne ressens plus le besoin de tout contr\u00f4ler\u2026 et quand \u00e7a arrive, je retourne \u00e0 la Premi\u00e8re \u00c9tape.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Tracy C., Nouveau-Brunswick<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum, <\/em>septembre 2023<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue <em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,220,225],"tags":[514],"class_list":["post-40286","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique","tag-controle"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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