{"id":33036,"date":"2021-06-23T16:11:34","date_gmt":"2021-06-23T20:11:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/?p=33036"},"modified":"2021-06-23T16:11:44","modified_gmt":"2021-06-23T20:11:44","slug":"decider-ou-regarder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/decider-ou-regarder\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00e9cider o\u00f9 regarder"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Apr\u00e8s le travail, je suis rentr\u00e9 chez moi, dans l\u2019appartement du 20<sup>e<\/sup>\u00a0\u00e9tage que je partageais avec mon partenaire alcoolique. Il donne sur une art\u00e8re principale de notre ville. Lorsque je suis descendu \u00e0 l\u2019arr\u00eat d\u2019autobus situ\u00e9 devant notre immeuble, j\u2019ai lev\u00e9 les yeux vers les fen\u00eatres pour voir ce qui m\u2019attendait. S\u2019il n\u2019y avait pas de lumi\u00e8re, il \u00e9tait soit sorti, soit endormi. Si je voyais une lumi\u00e8re, il \u00e9tait probablement dans la cuisine en train de pr\u00e9parer un bon repas. Mais si toutes les lumi\u00e8res \u00e9clairaient, cela signifiait qu\u2019il \u00e9tait aussi \u00ab\u00a0allum\u00e9\u00a0\u00bb que l\u2019appartement!<\/p>\n<p>Ces trajets en autobus \u00e9taient une source d\u2019anxi\u00e9t\u00e9, car je ne savais jamais si ma soir\u00e9e se d\u00e9roulerait dans la solitude, si j\u2019allais profiter d\u2019un souper agr\u00e9able ou vivre un chaos alcoolique. Avec le temps, le malaise a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 s\u2019insinuer dans mes apr\u00e8s-midis, car je commen\u00e7ais \u00e0 m\u2019inqui\u00e9ter bien avant de finir mon travail. Avec le temps, je d\u00e9veloppais de l\u2019anxi\u00e9t\u00e9 d\u00e8s que j\u2019entrais au bureau et j\u2019\u00e9tais une \u00e9pave \u00e0 l\u2019heure de la fermeture.<\/p>\n<p>Lorsque j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 assister aux r\u00e9unions Al\u2011Anon, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 ne pas souffrir \u00e0 l\u2019avance de choses qui ne sont pas encore arriv\u00e9es. J\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 voir que m\u2019inqui\u00e9ter de l\u2019avenir me faisait perdre des jours et des semaines, mais ne changeait jamais le r\u00e9sultat. Au contraire, si je me concentrais sur \u00ab\u00a0Aujourd\u2019hui seulement\u00a0\u00bb et non sur demain ou la semaine prochaine, je pouvais me ramener \u00e0 ma propre vie actuelle, \u00e0 l\u2019instant pr\u00e9sent.<\/p>\n<p>Un jour, j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 qu\u2019en descendant du bus, je ne l\u00e8verais pas les yeux. Au lieu de cela, je penserais aux achats que je devais faire ou bien si je d\u00e9sirais faire une promenade et m\u00e9diter sur la fa\u00e7on dont ma journ\u00e9e s\u2019\u00e9tait d\u00e9roul\u00e9e. J\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de ne pas anticiper quoi que ce soit concernant la maison avant d\u2019avoir mis la cl\u00e9 dans la porte, car quoi qu\u2019il en \u00e9tait, ce qui devait arriver allait arriver. Plusieurs fois par semaine, j\u2019assistais \u00e0 des r\u00e9unions Al\u2011Anon avant de rentrer et cela renfor\u00e7ait ma d\u00e9termination \u00e0 profiter de la vie.<\/p>\n<p>Ma nouvelle fa\u00e7on de voir les choses a commenc\u00e9 \u00e0 s\u2019infiltrer dans mes journ\u00e9es, car je me suis peu \u00e0 peu lib\u00e9r\u00e9 de l\u2019inqui\u00e9tude de ce qu\u2019une autre personne faisait en mon absence. Cela s\u2019est \u00e9galement \u00e9tendu \u00e0 mes autres interactions avec l\u2019alcoolique, car j\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 qu\u2019il \u00e9tait sous l\u2019emprise d\u2019une maladie qu\u2019il ne pouvait pas contr\u00f4ler, malgr\u00e9 ses efforts.<\/p>\n<p>Tout cela est arriv\u00e9 il y a longtemps. L\u2019alcoolique et moi nous sommes s\u00e9par\u00e9s, et je ne lui en veux pas. Cependant, aujourd\u2019hui encore, je me rappelle parfois de ne pas \u00ab\u00a0lever les yeux\u00a0\u00bb pour voir ce que quelqu\u2019un d\u2019autre fait et qui pourrait, ou non, perturber ou compliquer ma vie. Je suis trop occup\u00e9 \u00e0 voir ce qui se trouve ici, \u00e0 mon niveau et juste devant moi, et \u00e0 vivre le moment pr\u00e9sent.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Tim F., New York<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>The Forum<\/em>, mai 2021<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cet article peut \u00eatre reproduit sur le site Web de votre corps de service ou dans votre bulletin de nouvelles en pr\u00e9cisant\u00a0: Permission accord\u00e9e par la revue <em>The Forum<\/em>, Al\u2011Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":37,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,220,225],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-33036","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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