{"id":19071,"date":"2018-09-27T13:17:39","date_gmt":"2018-09-27T17:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/?p=19071\/"},"modified":"2018-09-27T16:22:23","modified_gmt":"2018-09-27T20:22:23","slug":"je-narrivais-pas-a-quitter-mon-epouse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-narrivais-pas-a-quitter-mon-epouse\/","title":{"rendered":"Je n\u2019arrivais pas \u00e0 quitter mon \u00e9pouse"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Ayant grandi dans un foyer dysfonctionnel, le chaos m\u2019\u00e9tait tr\u00e8s familier. J\u2019avais toujours l\u2019impression que quelque chose n\u2019allait pas, mais je ne savais pas quoi faire ou comment y rem\u00e9dier.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 20 ans, j\u2019ai eu mon premier fils. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 25 ans, j\u2019ai divorc\u00e9 et j\u2019ai d\u00fb \u00e9lever mes deux gar\u00e7ons. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 30 ans, j\u2019ai \u00e9pous\u00e9 ma deuxi\u00e8me alcoolique. C\u2019\u00e9tait une femme tr\u00e8s gentille; elle avait un emploi; elle \u00e9tait tr\u00e8s impliqu\u00e9e dans l\u2019\u00e9ducation de mes deux fils, et je l\u2019aimais. La consommation d\u2019alcool s\u2019est aggrav\u00e9e quand mes fils ont quitt\u00e9 le cocon familial et le divorce m\u2019a travers\u00e9 l\u2019esprit. Toutefois, je n\u2019arrivais pas \u00e0 quitter mon \u00e9pouse. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 50 ans, ma vie \u00e9tait devenue incontr\u00f4lable et je n\u2019avais nulle part o\u00f9 aller. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 54 ans, j\u2019ai d\u00fb avoir la dose de col\u00e8re, de ressentiment et d\u2019anxi\u00e9t\u00e9 parfaite pour me faire r\u00e9aliser que j\u2019avais besoin d\u2019aide et que je devais faire quelque chose \u2013 et vite!<\/p>\n<p>Gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 de nombreuses visites aux salles des urgences et aux centres de r\u00e9habilitation, j\u2019ai entendu parler d\u2019Al-Anon, mais j\u2019\u00e9tais convaincu que c\u2019\u00e9tait ma femme qui avait le probl\u00e8me, pas moi. J\u2019ai n\u00e9anmoins r\u00e9alis\u00e9 que ce que je faisais ne fonctionnait pas; alors, en janvier 2015, je suis all\u00e9 \u00e0 ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union Al-Anon.<\/p>\n<p>Tout le monde \u00e9tait gentil et les histoires des uns et des autres ressemblaient \u00e9norm\u00e9ment aux miennes. La premi\u00e8re chose \u00e0 laquelle je me suis accroch\u00e9 fut une liste intitul\u00e9e \u00ab\u00a0\u00c0 faire et \u00e0 ne pas faire\u00a0\u00bb. Imm\u00e9diatement, je me suis rendu compte que je faisais presque toutes les choses \u00ab\u00a0\u00e0 ne pas faire\u00a0\u00bb et aucune des choses \u00ab\u00a0\u00e0 faire\u00a0\u00bb. Un membre m\u2019a sugg\u00e9r\u00e9 de penser \u00e0 une chose \u00e0 \u00ab\u00a0faire\u00a0\u00bb et une chose \u00e0 \u00ab\u00a0ne pas faire\u00a0\u00bb chaque semaine. J\u2019ai donc imprim\u00e9 la liste et je l\u2019ai affich\u00e9e au mur chez moi. Tant\u00f4t, je me suis surpris \u00e0 r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir avant de faire une des choses \u00ab\u00a0\u00e0 ne pas faire\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Apr\u00e8s ma premi\u00e8re r\u00e9union Al-Anon, j\u2019ai eu une meilleure approche de la vie et les choses ne semblaient plus aussi d\u00e9sesp\u00e9r\u00e9es. Je me suis dit que si une r\u00e9union \u00e9tait bonne, alors deux seraient mieux. J\u2019ai \u00e9galement rencontr\u00e9 un homme plein de sagesse dans le programme qui m\u2019a dirig\u00e9 vers une r\u00e9union Al-Anon qui \u00e9tait particuli\u00e8rement pour les hommes. Il m\u2019a dit que, selon lui, on ne peut voir la perspective compl\u00e8te du programme qu\u2019apr\u00e8s avoir entrepris les Douze \u00c9tapes.<\/p>\n<p>Ma femme est d\u00e9c\u00e9d\u00e9e de sa maladie environ un an apr\u00e8s que j\u2019ai d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de me prendre un Parrain et de commencer \u00e0 travailler sur les Douze \u00c9tapes d\u2019Al-Anon. Le minutage de Dieu m\u2019a sauv\u00e9 d\u2019une vie de pens\u00e9es nuisibles. Je continue \u00e0 aller aux r\u00e9unions Al-Anon et je me porte volontaire pour faire du travail de service dans le programme. Maintenant, je me fais une bonne id\u00e9e de la fa\u00e7on dont je peux aider les autres et dont je peux prendre soin de moi-m\u00eame.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par John H., Texas<\/em><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: italic;\">Al-Anon face \u00e0 l\u2019alcoolisme 2019<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[272,220],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19071","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-al-anon-face-a-lalcoolisme","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.6 - 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