{"id":15264,"date":"2018-03-07T15:16:14","date_gmt":"2018-03-07T20:16:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/?p=15264\/"},"modified":"2018-03-07T15:16:14","modified_gmt":"2018-03-07T20:16:14","slug":"je-suis-fait-plaisir-au-lieu-dessayer-de-faire-plaisir-aux-autres","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/al-anon.org\/fr\/blog\/je-suis-fait-plaisir-au-lieu-dessayer-de-faire-plaisir-aux-autres\/","title":{"rendered":"Je me suis fait plaisir au lieu d\u2019essayer de faire plaisir aux autres"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-first\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_2_3 2_3 fusion-two-third\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:66.666666666667%;width:calc(66.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.66666666666667 ) );margin-right: 4%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>R\u00e9cemment, j\u2019ai achet\u00e9 un v\u00e9lo rouge de collection lors d\u2019une vente immobili\u00e8re. J\u2019ai souri quand je l\u2019ai vu pour la premi\u00e8re fois, car, pour moi, cette trouvaille semblait \u00eatre la parfaite acquisition. La premi\u00e8re fois que je suis mont\u00e9e dessus, j\u2019ai r\u00e9alis\u00e9 le parcours que j\u2019avais fait dans Al\u2011Anon. J\u2019avais finalement achet\u00e9 le v\u00e9lo que je voulais, au lieu de laisser quelqu\u2019un d\u2019autre faire le choix \u00e0 ma place.<\/p>\n<p>En tant qu\u2019enfant d\u2019une personne alcoolique, j\u2019avais appris \u00e0 ignorer mes propres besoins. J\u2019essayais de faire tout ce que ma m\u00e8re alcoolique voulait dans l\u2019espoir de mettre fin au chaos dans notre foyer. Mon estime de soi \u00e9tait devenue inexistante parce que je cherchais continuellement \u00e0 plaire et \u00e0 dire oui aux autres, plut\u00f4t que de suivre mes instincts et mes valeurs.<\/p>\n<p>Cela a continu\u00e9 dans mon mariage quand mon mari a d\u00e9cid\u00e9 de nous acheter des v\u00e9los. Je l\u2019ai laiss\u00e9 prendre la d\u00e9cision \u00e0 ma place et, en d\u00e9pit de mon d\u00e9sir de faire des randonn\u00e9es, je ne me suis jamais sentie \u00e0 l\u2019aise sur ce premier v\u00e9lo. Celui qu\u2019il avait choisi \u00e9tait compliqu\u00e9, inconfortable et n\u2019\u00e9tait simplement pas ce que j\u2019aurais choisi pour moi\u2011m\u00eame. Plus tard, nous avons achet\u00e9 des v\u00e9los de randonn\u00e9e et, une fois de plus, je l\u2019ai laiss\u00e9 choisir afin d\u2019\u00e9viter les conflits ou la d\u00e9sapprobation. Je n\u2019\u00e9tais pas \u00e0 l\u2019aise dans ces v\u00eatements de cyclisme \u00e9troits et collants et je n\u2019aimais pas non plus cette deuxi\u00e8me bicyclette.<\/p>\n<p>Je suis vraiment reconnaissante envers Al\u2011Anon de m\u2019avoir aid\u00e9e \u00e0 me d\u00e9barrasser de ma tendance \u00e0 toujours vouloir faire plaisir aux autres. En assistant aux r\u00e9unions et en travaillant sur les \u00c9tapes avec une Marraine, j\u2019ai appris \u00e0 mieux me conna\u00eetre et j\u2019apprends \u00e0 faire des choix qui correspondent \u00e0 mes d\u00e9sirs, non \u00e0 ceux des autres. Je suis maintenant capable d\u2019accepter leur d\u00e9sapprobation \u00e9ventuelle et faire ce qui me plait. Aujourd\u2019hui, quand je suis sur mon v\u00e9lo rouge, je peux sourire et \u00eatre heureuse, sachant que j\u2019ai trouv\u00e9 le courage d\u2019\u00eatre moi\u2011m\u00eame.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Par Laura D., Californie<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-2 fusion_builder_column_1_6 1_6 fusion-one-sixth fusion-column-last\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;width:16.666666666667%;width:calc(16.666666666667% - ( ( 4% + 4% ) * 0.16666666666667 ) );\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-column-wrapper-legacy\"><div class=\"fusion-clearfix\"><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":36,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[347,220,225,221],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15264","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-le-lien","category-mon-compagnonma-compagne-alcoolique","category-mon-conjointma-conjointe-alcoolique","category-mon-perema-mere-alcoolique"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.5 - 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